He stomps his feet and falls to the ground when he can't have something that he wants. This is all new to me because my oldest son didn't act like this. Any advice?
2007-02-05 01:44:30 · 19 answers · asked by lesodan2003 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I had that same problem with my daughter when she was that age. What I did (if we were at home) was ignore her while she was throwing the fit. Then when she was done I would explain to her why acting that way was not appropriate and she would get one minute in the corner. If we were out in public we would just leave and go home and once we got home she had to stand in the corner for one minute. It didn't take long for her to figure out that acting that way didn't get her what she wanted and it stopped. Good luck with your son.
2007-02-05 02:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter threw terrible tantrums! I just ignored her and left the room. I never let her have her way if she cried and screamed about it. If we were in a restaurant or at a store, I immediately left and went to the car with her and buckled her in her safety seat and let her cry it out. I did not give attention to it at all. I have even left a college football game before halftime and sat with her in the car until it was over. I never let it interfere with anyone else's good time. I was the one who consistently handled it. Not that my hubby or someone else couldn't, it was a consistency thing with me that it be handled the same way every time. It worked, eventually (not long though) she realized there would be no response. Now I have really well behaved children, both at home and in public. You may feel like it will never end and you will lose your mind, but if you stick with it the pay od is amazing.
2007-02-11 18:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by tamathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few times or for as many as you can: React with a soothing voice, and get down on his level. (not on the floor) Kneel down and say
" I know that you are wanting a cookie, but Jack you need to eat dinner before you have sweets."
And then distract with a toy or activity.
or
"Please use a big boy/inside voice so that I can understand your words, I cant hear what your saying when you act like this."
Children (especially 15-24months) have tantrums because they are frustrated. their cognitive little minds understand How the lid goes on the cup, but sometimes they cant get it without our help. This frustrated them and sends them into a tantrum. Wouldn't you be frustrated if all of a sudden you couldn't speak?? We take for granted our communication skills, if they were taken away......that's what your son is feeling.
Be calm and patient. Show by example and most important be consistent Explain EVERY time, he needs to use his words so that you can hear him, Dont give in sometimes and just hand him what he wants. that will send mixed messages. And if he's flat out over the edge, consider taking a time out with him (sitting him on your lap and waiting till the worst is over) then talking about it.
2007-02-11 13:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just ignore it. The more attention you give him, the longer it will go on. It is very normal at this age. If you give in you teach him that this is a fine way to get what he wants, which is exactly what you don't want to do. If you are at home, just walk away - right out of the room, or pick up the phone and call a Friend who supports you. Ignoring is hard, but it has to be done. If you are at a store, hang tough. If he is causing a real scene he is getting the attention he wants, so you may need to just walk out if you are uncomfortable with the attention YOU are getting!! I've toughed it out, kid screaming in cart, staying calm and with a smile on my face, and I've also just left the store. Whatever you do, don't give him what he wants just to keep the peace - it will never end if you do!
2007-02-11 14:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely ignore this behavior - don't acknowledge with any type of response just go about your business. Within 1 to 2 weeks he will stop.
Also - this may happen again. My 3yr old went through like 3 phases of testing us with her tantrums.
2007-02-12 22:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away if u give into him he will think it is ok to throw tantrums because he gets what he wants! He will soon realise that mummy isnt acting upon it and get bored with it.
2007-02-11 19:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him. and when the tantrums get bad put him in a naughty spot he is one so he should get one minute but everytime he gets out start the time over. he knows that you are going to give him attention and problaby what he wants as well. Be strong and dont give in.
2007-02-13 00:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by melvaldes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's fine. Just walk over him and make sure he can't hurt himself. This will all be nothing in comparison to what you will face in the future. P.S. I understand your frustration, I remember once I got so fed up, I threw the exact same tantrum in front of one of my kids (don't remember which one) they just stared at me like a had three heads...It was so worth it!! LOL!!
2007-02-11 16:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by stacia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 yr old that throws bad fits. When he did it one day at my moms house she told me to get on the floor and scream and cry and kick like he does. It may sound kinda funny but it works. We end up playing and laughing.
2007-02-13 01:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's usually when I know that my son is ready for a nap. Otherwise, make sure he is in a safe environment, where they cant hurt themselves and ignore him. I know its rough but if you resort to swatting him, he'll swat you back and trying to reason with a toddler is like asking a brick wall to move.
2007-02-05 11:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋