My boyfriend asked me to move to NYC with him. I'm told him due to financial reasons I can't move until July. However, I've never been there and it looks like I might not even visit until we go look for apartments. basically I feel really rushed, have been struggling from paycheck to paycheck for awhile now, and july signifies more income in my life. I've started thinking about staying here (michigan) for another year to save up some of the cash I'm getting and basically enjoy life before I move to a strange place. should I go in july or wait, even if it means he might go without me?
2007-02-05 01:41:25 · 10 answers · asked by violet1656 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not even sure If i'll like NYC
2007-02-05 01:41:39 · update #1
The first thing to think about is, how important this person is to you. The second thing that always works for me is i go with what my heart tells me, your instincts always tells you whats right? and new york shouldnt be that bad it should be an adventure, i moved just last year to a new state with out any friends or family and i barely had any money, and this was the best move ive made in my life. I was scared, but i went with my first instincts, and i had to think what was more important to me in my life at the time...so you should do the same when deciding. Think about your life, Your boyfriend, your financial situation, and go with the flow
2007-02-05 01:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you FEEL rushed then you ARE rushed. Make the move when the time is right for you, and only if you really want to move in the first place. As a New Yorker, I can tell you that living here is extremely expensive even when you make a decent living. The costs are always going up and real estate prices are astronomical. We are thinking of leaving a state we love because we just can't afford to live here anymore. If we made the money we are making here somewhere else, we'd be doing fine. In NY, we are choking. If I had to buy the house I own now again, I couldn't afford it. Remember, he is only your boyfriend, not your husband or your boss. This is a big move, and trust your instincts. If he decides to leave without you, then you weren't that important to him in the first place. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 09:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should think longer 'cause it's a big thing to do. Go there several times to visit your bf and see how you like it. It's a great city though.
I'm gonna move to California (from France) to live with my boyfriend but I thought about it for a long time and we discussed it and I've lived there several months already. But still, I had things to finish up in Paris so I waited for a year and it ended up all right, I'm gonna be moving soon: I can't wait, I'm really excited now!
Don't do it till you're ready and willing to move!
Good luck with your decision.
2007-02-05 09:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move, you can always go back home if you don't like it.
Have a look at your relationship though, because these fears are also stemming from your union together. Is it an excuse to stay.
Life is short, try it out and see.
2007-02-05 09:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're asking for this advice, clearly states that you ar not ready to move. So dont, you will just be unhappy and sooner or later you will detest your boyfriend into 'making' you move. Wait until you're really ready to make this or any other moves. If he loves you, he will understand.
2007-02-05 09:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to visit a place before you decide to move there, and if you are unsure ask him for you guys to go and visit and then see from there.
2007-02-05 09:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't alter your life to suit a guy. He'll be over you before you unpack your bags...and you'll be stuck with the moving bill. Make him pay all the expenses for your move and see how eager he'll be to have you come with him. I hate NY
2007-02-05 09:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU WANT TO WAIT AND THAT IS PROBABLY WHAT YOU SHOULD DO.YOU NEED TIME TO SEE WHAT KIND OF JOBS ARE AVAILABLE FOR YOU THERE AND I HAVE DONE SOME BIG MOVES MYSELF AND FIND IT HELPFUL TO HAVE A GOOD BIT OF MONEY SAVED. THE COST OF LIVING IS DIFFERENT FROM PLACE TO PLACE. MY CAR INSURANCE ALMOST TRIPLED MOVING FROM VA TO TX. IF HE LOVES YOU, HE WILL WAIT FOR YOU. KEEP IN MOND THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO BE DEPENDENT ON SOMEONELSE TO MAKE IT.
2007-02-05 09:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a big move, "I" think you should wait, get your afairs in order, let him move if thats what he wants to do. If your meant to be together, you will be and so much ready for it when the time comes. Good Luck !
2007-02-05 09:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well staying a year to save money, you won't save any money. this is a big decision. IO think you 2 should plan to go some weekend, just to see if you will like it there, and if you don't think you will then tell him that,,, not that you are going to save money. cause you and I both know you won't save any!
2007-02-05 09:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by pippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋