i want to get over him. I hate what he did to me . He treated me like crap and yet i find it so hard to move one why .
2007-02-05 01:09:59 · 29 answers · asked by nyasha33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well i was with him on and of for 9 months , He played so many mind games with me . One day he wants a relationship the next day he doesn't , One day he treats me like booty call , there was so much up and down , He never wanted to break up with me , but i had to end it and then he said some really mean stuff. Its the mean stuff that has helped try to move and never call him again . What hurts even more is that he always claimed to be my friend and said he cared about me a lot yet he wanted to use me for sex . He wants to hang out and i awalys say no . And the problem is i mad at myself even more for letting someone dis-respect me . How can he not see what he did to me and how can he not care.
2007-02-05 01:31:56 · update #1
It's hard to break a bond with someone, no matter how badly you've been treated. Still, I'm... older :-) and can tell you from experience that the best revenge really is living well. Corny as it sounds, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on. You already have a good foundation for moving on: that the guy doesn't treat you right so you should NOT revert. Knowing that, make yourself better and happier. Go out with friends. Take yourself shopping or just out for coffee to relax. Good luck!!
And PS - my husband's ex-wife simply cannot stand that he is over her. He wasn't looking for revenge, but it's nice to know that after she treated him like garbage, she gets to live on knowing he is happy!
2007-02-05 01:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing what he actually did, you say he treated you like crap. Be relieved that you are out of the relationship! You are a gift from God and a very special person. If this guy could not see that, then HE did not deserve you.
Also, I feel that when you hate someone, you give them power over you. You use your energy that you need or can do better things with, than hate . Get involved in activities that you loved to do before this guy. Call old friends that you haven't seen in a while. Go see and talk to your parents. Go to church. Do not hate him. He does not deserve the right to have you think about him.
2007-02-05 09:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you break up? It takes time to get over him, even when your break up was for the best. Everybody feels like crap for a while after breaking up -- that's why there's so many songs written about it.
But his treating you like crap might have planted the notion in your brain that at least part of the problem was your fault; you somehow deserved it; or, that you aren't very attractive, stupid or whatever.
Doing things you're good at; doing things just because you like doing them & getting out with friends will help. This too shall pass.
2007-02-05 09:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it him you miss? or is it the comforting times, the security that he gave you every once in a while? Are you desiring the attention that he gave you? (not the bad) Getting over any relationship especially if you have been in one for a long time is hard to get over, even if it wasn't the greatest. But hunny I can tell you from experience that you will find a much better man. One that will love you and not want to hurt you. You will get over him, how long ago was it... Time will heal all pain. You can just be on your own letting yourself heal for a little while insted of jumping back into a relationship again
2007-02-05 09:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mindy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Picture your life without him.
Look at all the crap you went through.
There are a lot of guys out there and you probably deserve to be treated better. Get out there and mingle. The more time you spend doing things and being active the less time you'll spend thinking about him.
Any relationship is hard to forget (good or bad) but as long as your busy you're not thinking about it.
2007-02-05 09:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is very hard to get over this feeling of humilation. When you move on you have to accept the fact that someone treated you like crap. Very difficult.
Best revenge? Being happy.
2007-02-05 09:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i may be wrong but if u have been with him a long time while he treated u like trash then it u maybe used to it ya kno .
sometimes misery becomes comfortable and we dont want to leave that comfort even if it hurts but u can do it baby we females have a weird strength that helps us fight this kinda hurt
stay away from him and spend alot of time with you friends
and dont hate him honey because when u hate someone they stay on ur mind and i kno u dont want that rite?
dont get a rebound guy give urself time to heal
just have fun w/ yo girls and breathe
2007-02-05 09:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by leandrasmiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really love him. you are lucky and fail to see this. you could have had a lot more time with him treating you like crap. trust me. you will get better and be on top of your game soon. it is kinda like you want to get vengeance on him, but, then you don't want to hurt him like you've been hurt. it is best to let it go, free yourself from this nasty hold. a guy that has the same view and the same big loving true heart is waiting for you out there. he is the one you should be keeping your eye out for.
2007-02-05 09:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all go through that at some stage, the best part is you'll know when a great guy comes along.
He did whatever he did because of him, not you.
If you hate him, he probably wont admit it but hates himself even more.
2007-02-05 09:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not tolerate the poor treatment overnight and you won't get over it overnight either. You need to do some good things for yourself now because it's going to take some time.
2007-02-05 09:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋