Ok so my ex and I are broke up its been this way for about one month now. At first we barely talked we do every couple of days briefly I don't usually call her we text eachother. The problem is when I do talk to her on the phone she acts as if she has an attitude. She will get mad at me and ask me why dont I call as much. She left to go to college about an hour away from where we live in DC she tells me that she wants to see me but then she will make up an excuse not to. I don't know what her problem is I'm not sure how to deal with her because she switches up all the time. Should I completely ignore her or be there for her.
2007-02-05 01:00:10 · 14 answers · asked by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she broke up with me because of my "attitude" even though she has an attitude as well
2007-02-05 01:42:47 · update #1
You should completely get a life! Sike girl MOO VE ON!
2007-02-05 05:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sue Sue2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your offering to be there for her, it seems that you may still have feelings for her. The problem is you recently broke up with her yet you two keep in touch so you’ve really not put closure to the relationship. You either need to decide that you want to try and work on the relationship and whatever issue that caused the break up or you need to let go and move on. If you decide that a relationship isn’t what you want then you need to break off all contact for the time being. Let time lapse and then perhaps you can work on being friends if you feel the need. It seems like she wants to be with you and just doesn’t know how to approach the subject so it’s left up to you. One of you has to stop the game that’s going on between the two of you. She seems too confused to do so, so you have to determine what it is that you really want to make it happen. Either be in a relationship with her or end the relationship including friendship all together. Right now too many open wounds are causing the flip flop attitude. Whatever it is that you decide to do, you need to do it quickly before harsh feelings start to come out.
2007-02-05 09:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this a mutual breakup? If so, it sounds like she still wants to be with you but you guys had to breakup because she was moving away.
Ask her why she's acting like this. It sounds like she really wants to be friends or even more but she doesn't know how to approach you with this.
Texting and IMing are great, but in this situation are very bad. You need to -talk- with her. Typed out words don't always show you exactly what someone means.
Phone calls are better than this, but initiate something and go to somewhere familiar (not really a place where you dated, but somewhere where you are both comfortable). Have her meet you there and just talk for a while on a weekend when you two are both free and don't have to rush off to do something. Maybe you can understand what she's going through. Talk about how you feel and tell her that it's confusing you.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 09:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what her problem is...she's not over you. You are confusing her. The problem with being friends with ex's is one party is hoping to get the other back. People really need to not be friends with ex's because it causes a whole slew of problems. Very rarely can this be pulled off successfully. I would talk to her and tell her that you cannot continue to contact her. You both need time to get over each other and move on. It's not in your's or her's best interst to continue being friends. She'll be hurt, you'll be hurt. But, you two will be able to move on much easier.
2007-02-05 09:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell us if you are permanently broken up or if you still have feelings for her....who decided to break the relationship?
it seems like shes mad at you, or is trying to make a point by behaving this way....
if you are not interested in getting back together sometimes it better to give things a break until both of you have sorted yourselves out....theres no harm in a complete cut off...once you have got on with your lives you can stay in touch as friends....
if you think thats not the right option then perhaps you should ask her what exactly it is that she wants....be straight and just ask her...does she wanna meet you or not? its not polite to stand someone up...does she want to talk to you on the fone or not...if she does then why is she talking with an attitude?.....
communication is the best kep whether it is to break up or make up or just stay friends. No matter what your decision its better for you to let her know what you have decided...if she knows whats going on in your mind then perhaps it will help her to clear her own head....
perhaps she hasnt communicated ALL of what she feels with you and thats why her behaviour is so off...
be open and staight...communicate....its the best way to clear your mind
2007-02-05 09:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMM stay as x's....She is making no sense what-so-ever. But what I am guessing is that she wants to know that you are there and i hate to say this but "waiting" for her. In other words....keep you hanging on a string so to speak. IF she treats you like crap and you are still hanging around...then you are giving her permission to continue to treat you this way. If you make plans...then only make plans for lunch or coffee...and only when she comes back home for a visit....and always plan to go out on a date or with the guys in the evenings. those day light get together say to a female one of two things.....1- you are just meeting for the first time......2-we are nothing but friends and I would rather keep it that way. Best of luck to you in dealing with her.....but move on.
2007-02-05 09:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to move on.
It sounds like you broke up and neither one wanted to.
Was it a mutual separation? If so why continuously call each other. Is she making excuses or is it you can't accept that the two of you are no longer a couple.
2007-02-05 09:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point in the relationship, I would say it is time to let go and move on.
I would not continue to play the cat and mouse game due to the fact that she is being inconsiderate of your emotions.
I would just tell her plain and simple that you would just rather end the relationship and meet new people.
2007-02-05 09:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice would be just ask her tell you/ tell her you have noticed these things ,that you are confused at her actions that you would feel better if you knew what she was trying to tell you/tell her if there is a problem she should let you know what it is /it is hard to fix a problem if you cant determine the cause........good luck and God Bless
2007-02-05 09:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship's over. Let it go. The longer you let it drag on, the longer it'll take to get over her and meet someone new. Might as well stop wasting time. life's too short.
2007-02-05 09:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋