there is NO point at all! if u dont want to be with the person u r wit dump'em or divorce'em er whatev but why cheat all it does is tick people off and get other people pregnant then u got to go on maury to see who the daddy is and ther is NO point its just dumb!
2007-02-05 00:56:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think it's for the reasons people assume (just sex or for the thrills, etc).
In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.
Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two options.
I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.
For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.
I've always wondered why people find cheating (breaking the rules) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.
2007-02-05 00:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will respectfully disagree with just about relatively everyone else that has offered an opinion. Few people walk right into a medical doctors workplace and say to the wellbeing practitioner, "I even have maximum cancers." No, they walk in with a cough, a lump, a discomfort that may not bypass away-a likely, unrelated symptom that ends up in extra inspection and famous a maximum cancers. Infidelity is a lot the comparable, it relatively is a symptom of a better, underlying unwell which will doom a courting if unaddressed. The question it would desire to be prudent to ask is why did the guy experience the might desire to stray in the 1st place and then heavily learn your very own movements. As a counselor chum of mine tells me-if each and each significant different to a collapsing marriage won't be able to fill an entire web site of a yellow criminal pad with what they did, or did no longer do to make a contribution to its failings then they have not conventional their duty yet and could in all probability proceed in dysfunctional relationships. Having labored with many relationships that have this subject (we are a PI team out of Dallas, TX) i will make it easier to be attentive to that there are in basic terms as many that do be waiting to artwork in the direction of the infidelity and come out as a greater couple on the different area. To blindly blame the different man or woman fails to nicely known the underlying subject that created the infidelity and delays one or the two analyzing how they might flow directly to a extra fit relationships.
2016-10-01 11:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so agree with Rad... and in addition I don't believe that cheating is a result of not enough sex or "my wife doesn't understand me" or any of the other excuses that blame the partner. Our society maintains that we must maintain monogamy after marriage and it is posible. I believe that people cheat for only one reason.
Men and women alike cheat because they are unable to deal with the reality that marriage lives in. When who they are, where they are and why they are becomes too much the need to reinvent their lives, at least in their heads, takes over and they take on a new partner presenting themselves as they would like to be seen. They don't have to argue about money, children or garbage on Tuesdays with this new person and the relationship is clean and new and exciting. They feel beautiful and strong and desirable. The sex is brand new, unpredictable and satisfying.
All of this adds up to them seeing themselves differently. It's a fantasy, of course, but it feels good. They don't have to deel with any of the day to day things that go on in marriage with this new person and so it seems like the better choice when actually it's just a lack of history. Of course this person is going to look better to them as he hasn't seen her in childbirth, she hasn't seen him get angry. I'ts all fantasy, illusion, wishfull thinking, an ego trip.
But instead of the cheater admitting the truth s/he says it's the partners fault. S/he didn't get enough of this, that or the other thing. Don't buy that crap. My late husband once went without conventional sex for 12 years while I was ill but ours was a very loving, creative and affectionate relationship. He got so much attention I don't think he actually realized that it was missing until it was over.
Anyway, the point is, there is a point to cheating if we could just be grown ups and admit the truth about it. It's fantasy vs reality. Nothing more. Nothing less.
2007-02-05 01:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's boring to be withthe same person. It's not in our genes to be loyal, it's better for raising a family though.
The wise thing to do is to accept some and be the ultimate winner. I think people don't want to share paychecks. When the guy is a millionaire many women don't care how many one is *******.
2007-02-05 01:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people cheat for alot of reasons and people who do cheat dont nessecarily want to break up with or divorce who ever they are cheating on. Some people have ego problems or are bored in a marriage, some people do it for revenge on thier spouse for cheating on them, others do it because they stopped having sex w thier spouse years ago but dont want to leave them. Some people hate thier spouse but stay for the kids and both parents see other people outside the marriage. It can get very complicated and wierd!
2007-02-05 01:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Selfishness.
2007-02-05 01:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people just can't be faithful. They can love you to death but that doesn't help them keep their flies zipped.
2007-02-05 01:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by kim s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Because they can
2. to prove they are still attractive
3. to build their ego
4. for the thrill of doing something wrong
2007-02-05 01:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOMEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY FEEL LIKE THIER NOT LOVED AND MEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY THINK WITH THE WRONG HEAD.
2007-02-05 01:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Skeeter D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree... some ppl are just assholes.. they like pissing ppl off and ruining their lives, and giving them a hard time to make them feel better.. its sad and pathetic actually ... :(
2007-02-05 00:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋