I'm really going through some things and I feel like I am not at the right place in my life. I think I need to go away for a weekend and get some help finding out who I am and what I really want. Do you guys have any suggestions? I really just feel like I am not who I am supposed to be right now.
I thought something like a spa retreat.. but I want help.. not just to be pampered all weekend (although that would be nice) ;-)
2007-02-05 00:42:01 · 13 answers · asked by oo_whatchulike_oo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, that's the thing... I'm 28. I've had plenty of time to figure this out (haven't I?) Now i feel like I might be going down the wrong path, I'm just not happy. i feel like I could do more with my life then sit at a desk a freaking day. I don't know if my fiance is "the one". I'm going to be turning 30 and I haven't done anything with my life. Am I having an early midlife crisis?
Oh, and the only reason I am writing right now is because I called in sick telling my boss I have a fever... I don't.. who does that at 28 years old!!!! I have a career.. this isn't Burger King, I commute! (Ok, need to screem).
2007-02-05 00:56:43 · update #1
I'm loving some of these answers lol
But on a serious note. I have an appointment with a therapist tomorrow. I have met someone who I am starting to fall for and I almost feel like I'm starting to like my life again and starting over... I just think I am in the wrong relationship with my fiance. I think that during my appt tomorrow I will try to figure out how to leave him. I have tried so many times but he can't let me go.. so it's really hard and I keep coming back.. knowing things will never change.
I am also thinking about volunteering abroad for a few months.. maybe I can have some peace during that time and feel like I am doing something great with my life.
OMG... I'm turning into a treehugger lol jk
2007-02-12 09:33:16 · update #2
There are some worthy answers here. Remember that you cannot run from yourself. Wherever you go, YOU will still be there.... The same person with the same problems. Take responsibility for all you control. Don't try to change things that are out of your control. Face your fears and work them out. That may free you from the anxiety you are experiencing.
2007-02-12 15:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Yowdy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's all good. Trust me, I am 30 and things have worked out the past few years for me....I was in the same situation. Sometimes you get so lost in life, you have no idea who you are. When I was 28, I actually broke up with girlfriend after five years because I looked at her and realized she wasn't the one and it changed my life. I had just gotten into a rut and it brought me down until I was just a blob with no real direction or any idea what was going on in my life. Quoting Everclear "Don't let the hand you hold be the one that holds you down." She never did it on purpose, I let myself be brought down because I was unhappy in my relationship, without even really knowing it and in retrospect, it was something I should have done a long time ago.
2007-02-05 01:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by christerosterling 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It might be worthwhile to do a self-help and self-exploration activity. Some psychotherapy with a psychologist couldn't hurt. But if that is not practical for you, try a good book on this topic like: "Wherever You Go, There You Are" by Jon Kabit-Zinn
It's a lot cheaper than what I charge for therapy...
2007-02-11 12:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by couchtalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm. How old are you? Because I am 19 and I feel the same way. I've tried going away though but it didn't help. I've come to the conclusion that I'm still young and I guess it will just take time to truly figure myself out.
2007-02-05 00:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is hard to answer "how do I find myself" But I can say your not the only one that probably feels that way. A weekend away from normal day to day life will make you feel better. Being alone to decided what YOU want and how to make YOU happy. But talk to your partner because sometimes cutting them out makes it harder for them to understand later.
2007-02-12 11:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by abbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although a spa would be a lovely way to relax it wont solve your issues, it sounds as if you need to really sit down and think openly and honestly about what you want out of life. Once you know what it is you want then go for it because life is to short to be unhappy.
2007-02-10 21:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi! You should contact abc,cbs or nbc and propose a realty show with you being the lead character.You could call it Drifting!Perhaps your problem is that you are clueless in life.Don't worry eventually you will mature and snap out of it.
2007-02-12 10:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by adam p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you have lost yourself,
go back to where you last knew you were.
perhaps, you're still there;
or, at least, you can pick up your trail to where you are.
if that doesn't work, how do you know you even existed in the first place?
perhaps, you are someone else who has lost themselves and they think they are you.
2007-02-12 01:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mountain One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call out a search party, post up missing pics, and put out an amber alert. im sure someone will have you found :)
2007-02-11 18:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can figure out where you lost yourself last, it's easy.
2007-02-05 00:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Manian 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋