Do parents really love their children?

Question

I'm 15 and really doubt this is true. Acording to my perception, most parents don't worry about their kids happiness, don't care about how they feel, frequently humilkiate them and hurt their feelings. They don't love their kids when they get in trouble or when they simply act in a way parents don't like. Many abandon their kids when they are in trouble, it's not true they are always there for them. It seems most of them just want to be proud of their kids, but abandon them if they are not.
I think most people will still help their parents even if they are criminals, but parents will abandon their kids in such kids.
It's something sad and frustrating to realize you do'nt realy have someone who love you uncondionally and will accept you as you are,

Answer 1

You are completely right - all that happens. Sometimes. To some children. Not everybody can be a good parent, it's just a sad part of life. And even the good parents, well, they just can't be great all of the time.

I know that I screw up a lot, I'm sure many of us do. But I love my kid so much it rips my heart out. I love her when she's sweet, I love her when she's snotty, I love her when she's generous, I love her when she's selfish. I love her when she's out-of-her-mind bad, just as much as when she puts her arms around me from behind and puts her cheek on mine.

Even if we suck sometimes, don't write off the whole lot of us. Most of us are trying every day the best we can.

Answer 2

1) I love my children unconditionally. The love between a parent and child is the only truely unconditional love that there is. No matter what your child does or how much they hurt you you will always love them. I would give my own life if it would save one of my children. 2) I show my children I love them all day everyday. I tell them with words, I give them hugs, a kiss on the cheek. I make sure they have what they need, I encourage them, support them and am there for them whenever they need. I teach them values and the fact that life isnt fair and pick them up when they are down. 3) parents love their children more than the child loves them because the child is a part of them that they created and loved and is their legacy. No matter what else they do in life it will never be as special to them as their children. As the kids get older I do not think they love the parent any less it just takes longer for them to learn what real love is and accept it. When they are small all they know is this is the person who feeds me and changes me they like that person but have no ideal what love is that grows as they do. There is nothing more challenging, rewarding, heartbreaking and worthwhile than being a parent.

Answer 3

if parents love their children .. why do they "honour kill" their children. Why do they forcefully marry their kids against their choice. Why do they please the society more then their own kids. Why do they drive their kids out when they are 15 or 18. Some might argue its to make them strong , but many such kids make the wrong decisions in life and ruin their life and their parents are nowhere next to them to help support them. Now some of these arguments apply to some parts of the world , others to other parts of the world , but they do conclude , you cannot generalize parents ALWAYS love their children.

Answer 4

Do parents really love their children?

SOME DON'T AND SOME DO AND SOME ONLY SOMETIMES

if you have a computer (as i see you on here) and a roof over your head there is least a minimal level of caring involved in that

i had a friend once when i was around your age that used to get beat up by his dad allot,i mean badly by his dad messed him up allot,,anyway somehow ( i forget all the details) my friend was on a skate board with his headphones in front of his house a car was coming and his dad knocked him out of the way and got hit and now is...well bad off so some parents ,DO LOVE BUT HAVE A MESSED UP WAY OF SHOWING IT

Answer 5

It is obvious from your observations and comments that you are very young and inexperienced about life. I feel very sorry for you if this is your perception.

I am in my late 50's, and happily married to my husband of almost 35 years. We have three children who are now adults with children and families of their own.

Although my children are all successful and happy now, it wasn't always that way. I can tell you from personal experience that all parents "do not" abandon their kids when they are "in trouble"!

Without going into any details, let me say that we have one child who we thought would never straighten out. I can't even begin to count the number of times we had to bail him out of situations he got himself into. During all the years of difficulty we had with our child, it never once entered my mind to "abandon" him!

I love my children, and there is nothing I wouldn't do to help them or to protect them. I believe most parents feel the same way. I'm not saying that everyone feels this way (although they should), and I feel sorry for the children who will never grow up knowing with certainty that they have "someone in their corner" no matter what.

It's easy to be "proud" of your children, what's not so easy is raising them with the love and guidance it takes to ensure they grow into a successful well-balanced adult.

What's truly "sad and frustrating" is reading your comments, you couldn't be more wrong. We "love" our children "unconditionally" and have always "accepted" them - good and bad!

I'm am very sorry for you if this has not been your experience, it should have been. God bless you.

Answer 6

first of all any parent who destroys a childs sense of being is not worth being called a parent ,by definition parentig involves love ,caring,protecting,listening.most parents have the love for children and most are better parents by listening to their kids,you should not lose hope but love your parents and let them know when you are sad.

Answer 7

being a parent isnt easy. think it this way you are in charge of making your offspring better than you taking your own mistakes and making shure they dont make them. your proud when they do good and ashamed (because they made the same mistake as you but you cant tell them) (such as having a kid) because your sitting with them in the principal office hearing what they did wrong. its love but not the way its normaly done (the beating belt helps alot too)

Answer 8

Believe me I will always love my kids, no matter what, BUT I will not bail them out of trouble when they do something wrong. If my kid is caught stealing or doing drugs, or whatever, and end up in court over it, then I won't get them out of trouble. If I bail them out every time they get into trouble, how will they learn to stop whatever it is they are doing wrong? If I always make it better for them, they will continue to act out until they are in a place where I can't help them or dead. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your child is let them suffer the consequences of their actions. It hurts like hell to watch, but stepping in can cause more harm then good. That doesn't mean I don't love my kids, it actually means the opposite. I do love them, and want them to learn and straighten up before it is too late.
Honestly, my job isn't to make you happy. My job is to love you, teach you right from wrong, how to respect other people, and how to make it on your own. Your happiness has a lot to do with your decisions. I can't always coreect those, becasue you are your own person, and will make some good and not so good decisions in your life. If you see shame, it is more shame in myself for not teaching you properly, and you for making the wrong choice, but I will always love them no matter what, but sometimes you get to the point that you don't know what to do, or how to help anymore. The love is always there, but the understanding of how you can be the way you are can sometimes be lacking.
I have seen this with my husbands uncle. His parents did everything they could to raise him right, but he got into drugs and just completely ruined his life. He would steal from them and tell them he hated them, quit his job, but evertime he got into trouble they bailed him out and each time the trouble got worse. He finally ended up in jail. That is what it took to straighten him out. He moved to a different state to get away from the old crowd, has a good job now and seems to be making a better life for himself. Maybe if they hadn't bailed him out all those years, he would have straightened out earlier. They always loved him, but they were at their wits end at times and he wasn't welcome at their home. It's called tough love. You have to do it sometimes in hopes they will realize what they are doing is screwing up their lives and will turn it around.

Answer 9

yes our kids are our life, i walk threw flames of fire for our kids; all kids get into trouble, but it a way they learn the fact of life,..our kids re a long way from being angels, an just a few weeks ago,they found we be their when the rest turn an run,

Answer 10

Of course parents love their children. Probably, they just consider other things for the sake of their child why they make a certain decision like of to abandoned their child.
They could have their reasons for Good.