I have 26years old half-brother who is eight years older than me and I only met him a few times in my life. Ever since I went on a holiday to spend time with him two weeks ago, i was starting to like him so much and it develops into a crush.We are so close and he sometimes tease me or talk to me about like "intimate" things so I was confused about whenether he likes me or just treat me like his little sister. So I dont want to make things worse for him and my family if I asked if he too likes me. iT WOULD be embarresing.,please do help me about what should i do about it without damaging our good relationship.
2007-02-05 00:16:24 · 39 answers · asked by melrap88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
morally wrong and just gross
he probbally tells you intimate things because he trust you not because he wants to get with you
2007-02-05 00:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's eight years your senior, so he should realize that teasing you and talking to you about "intimate" things is not appropriate. It also sounds as if things have already gone past a healthy relationship between brother and sister and turned into a flirtatious situation. Realize that he is your brother. He is not available as a romantic partner. If you cannot control your feelings, then I would advise you to distance yourself from him for a while, and definitely not spend time alone with him once you do resume contact. If he asks you why you are being distant, you should have no problem being honest with him, since you say you have a good relationship. If he respects your decision, you have a very good brother. However, if he confesses that he has amorous feelings for you, then that should only reinforce the need to get away from each other! If time apart does not quell your attraction, maybe you should look into counseling.
2007-02-05 00:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by Angela B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you weren't raised with your half-brother may be contributing to your feelings. If you had been, you wouldn't have the "crush" on him that you have developed. The fact that he's "older", probably makes him seem even more appealing.
When I was your age my first cousin was older, and I was mildly "infatuated" with him. He was popular and good looking, I was thrilled whenever he paid any attention to me. However, he never discussed "intimate" and "inappropriate" subjects with me. Even then I knew there were certain lines you just don't cross.
It doesn't matter if he "likes" you or not - it's wrong! It is very inappropriate for him to discuss "intimate" subjects with you, no wonder you are "confused". "Embarrassment" will be the least of your problems if you continue down this road.
The relationship you have with your half-brother isn't "good", and I don't think you need to be concerned about "damaging" it. What you should be concerned about is making it very clear to him that there are certain "boundaries" in life that you aren't going to cross.
I suggest you find someone outside your family with whom you can discuss these feelings with. Perhaps some counseling can help you work through these feelings and help you deal with them. Nothing good will ever come from your "crush" on your half-brother, please get some help.
I wish you well, good luck.
2007-02-05 01:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's WRONG. It's called incest. Against the law. You are related by blood. You have the same father or mother. Seek counseling. Don't ask him how he feels about you. You will be opening up a can of worms. Your half brother is way out of line. He is not treating you as a little sister, instead he is taking advantage to see how for you will allow him to go. Stay as far away from him as possible. What you should do is not to entertain this sinful thought. Good Luck!
2007-02-05 00:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 09:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confusing lust with love. First, you have to be mature enough to say no to this lust and still love him. Often people confuse the two.
Also, lust fades so give it time and keep your distance. You will destroy the relationship if you tell him you are hot for him. If he is immoral he might hurt you by taking you up on it and then your whole family will suffer. If he is a moral person he would never encourage any teen, let alone his sister and you will create a wall between you.
You are not "bad" because of these feelings but the consequences of acting on them or encouraging them in your fantasies is going to be a messed up family. This situation is loaded with problems. Focus on someone else.
2007-02-05 01:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dawnmarie K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If there is a biological connection YES!!! You may have not seen him much over your life but he is still blood related. (Now if he was just the son of a stepfather/mother I might feel different). You must put your feeling aside and think about the future. You have you think what the consequences could be if you did hookup, got married and had children. Children of related people have a much higher rate of disabilities. Think about it very seriously before you move on the the next level, but if you have already went on holiday with him sounds like you already have. BE CAREFUL!
2007-02-05 00:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kaitlyn, how can you be "so close" with somebody you just met two weeks ago?????
This is a bad, bad idea. Add another bad. The two of you share DNA. You need to back off until you get some time under your belt to mature and think about this. In the meantime, if he makes a pass at you in any way, shut him down immediately and go talk to your mother.
2007-02-05 00:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say that this took a lot of guts to ask on yahoo answers....what a tough situation! I do not think you should persue it - I think if anything, your just having natural feelings of coming of age and if you get along well with him, than he just becomes an attractive prospect....but he shouldn't be. Go find someone outside of your family to talk to and go try hanging out with some new friends and find another cute boy to chill with. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 01:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by LionessB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your half brother is still your brother. Your blood is flowing in his veins and vice versa.
There's nothing wrong with being friends but It is dangerous to think of anything other
than being friends. Don't start something that will cause pain and embarrassment down the road.
2007-02-12 16:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, you CAN'T pursue this!! If you guys go forward and have relations, can you imagine what your kids would look like should you get pregnant! Plus other kids can be cruel, so you'll be making a child's life pure hell. And for what, because of "feelings"? There are 3 billion men in the world. Get one who doesn't have your blood!!
2007-02-05 01:29:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋