my dad gave the usual excuse..that the relationshp will affect my studies in college,,he said i can only start dating only after i start working!!he said i'm too young to date now!!any advise on what i can do to change his mind?
2007-02-05 00:00:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL, there is nothing you can do to change his mind. So you will just have to do the dating thing on the sly. But, make very sure that you don't neglect your studies.
I told my daughter the same thing, but, i know for a fact she was seeing someone on a regular basis throughout her college years. I didn't like it, but she was an adult and could do as she chose to do.
Your dad just wants you to be successful in life and not end up like other women do. Getting pregnant and not finishing their education. This happens so much these days and he just doesn't want that to happen to you.
2007-02-05 00:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20. Your dad cant stop you. At 20 you should start dating. That being said.....
Being 20 doesnt mean you should go out to every party, get drunk every night and date any and every guy who asks you out. Find a nice guy, a steady guy to go out with. But dont let it take up so much of your time that it does affect your schoolwork. And get a job! 20? I had my first job at 15 no offense, but 20...you should already have a job even if you are in college. Just a part time job to get a little bit of work experience wouldnt hurt any. Your dad will eventually come around.
2007-02-05 00:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that most girls your age do date and a social connection that is made in college is just as valuable as a growing experience as anything else you do. Point out that your are responsible, don't drink or do drugs, and you will confine your dating to weekends, except for study dates. Since you already have a boyfriend, he may not believe you , but you can try.
Then do exactly what you said, no drinking, no drugs, limited dating, with what college costs today any kid that thinks its an unending party time ought to be paddled.
2007-02-05 00:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad makes some really good points, but still, you're 20 and you can live your own life. Stay with the guy if you want, but remember that college will always be more important.
2007-02-05 02:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 and need your dad's permission to go out on a date? Where do you live, like, India? Jees, doesn't your dad know that arranged marriages are passe already? He certainly needs a reality check and I suggest your stand up for your rights and make him understand this. Be diplomatic about it but be firm. This is the 21st century.
2007-02-05 00:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Chandru M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the boy doesn't cause you to drastically change your life and is not a really bad guy I don't see the problem. You're over 18 and dad shouldn't have even been involved with this decision.
2007-02-05 00:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf is supportive and serious about his education and encourages you to put your studies first, its shouldn't be a problem.
I understand your father's concern because he wants you to graduate. I didn't start dating when I was a Freshman in college and didn't date again in 3 years because I had to put my studies first. When I dated again, I was better prepared to deal with it and I was finishing college.
Talk to your father about this issue and share your feelings about it and come to a compromise. He will find common ground as well with you. Good luck.
2007-02-05 00:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by mcneill_35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize two things. Your Father Loves you, more than you give him credit for. If you Love him, in return. You'll listen to what he hs to say. He must feel that you're not ready for this one. He Loves You! Give him the respect of listening. If you can show him that you are an Adult? Maybe he'll give you some room. But it's gonna hard to believe that His Little Girl is all grown up.
2007-02-05 00:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not take this the incorrect way (i'm a muslim lady too) yet i actually do not imagine he will agree if you're scared to inform him. asian dad and mom (i'm assuming you're asian) are like that and to be straightforward that is all about how the community sees them and honour. through the way you've defined him, you're too scared to inform him as you've faith he received't comply with it. and the actual incontrovertible truth that he's a white boy is even worse. do not get me incorrect, i do not imagine there is a few thing incorrect with it, yet when your dad is as strict as you assert he's then you truly pick to communicate over with him in the previous the courting receives any further, or you receives to some extent the position there is truly no going lower back and consider to settle on. in case you and your mom attempt to describe that you extremely do love him and that he's a respectable and actual guy, who's popular with, he may evaluate it. yet truly, you pick to attempt to communicate over with him. and to the human beings announcing he's in common words gonna convert for love: i examine some thing which i accept as true with - no matter if someone converts to islam for some thing except because they easily pick to, it would not change the actual incontrovertible truth that there is one extra muslim interior the international. that is tremendous that he's very accepting. yet please communicate over with him. in my opinion, i fell in love with a white guy. it did not end nicely.. yet even although i did not tell my mom about him, she pronounced she'd settle for if i needed to marry a white guy see you later as he switched over and develop right into a form, actual human being who wanted to make me chuffed. sturdy luck!
2016-11-25 03:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um you're never going to change his mind because he sees you as his little girl. Get over it and continue having a boyfriend. You could be 30 and your dad will still not approve of a boyfriend for you.
2007-02-05 00:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋