I've been seeing a guy for the last 8 months who I thought was the nicest, most wonderful guy I had ever met. Yesterday, however, I found out through a friend that not only is he back with his ex girlfriend who lives in his hometown (and is 44, divorced and has kids my age) but also that he has other girl's all over the place, since he travels for work. I honestly trusted him and believed all the things he said to me. Was it all just lies or could there have been truth behind his feelings? And can a player change his ways, or is it not worth my time trying? Even after hearing the bad news, I still want him.....Help!
2007-02-04 23:46:06 · 10 answers · asked by citygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Confront him personally. Talk . Analyze the feedbacks from him. If he admits being a player, so be it. Its your call to whether to stick around or move on. It hurts , i know. I was player too..but now i realize what jerk i have been. Anyway..God will guide you.. as He guided me. Pray.
2007-02-04 23:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by wayfarer . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you what you wanted to hear. What a jerk! He thinks he is a player but he is just a user, liar, and a cheat. He isn't worth your time or effort and please don't take him back to change him. He is what he is. He will not change. You don't want him. You want what you thought he was-what he pretended to be. He doesn't exist.
I suggest you picture his face, close to you, whispering all those wonderful little things. Look directly in his eyes and see the liar. Get roaring mad. Now go get busy. Clean out your closets, wax your floors. . .Find somebody to go run around with, get your mind busy on other things and other people. Volunteer work is good where you help others. It makes you feel good about yourself and better about life. Anytime you get weak and want to pick up the phone, go jog around the block and give yourself a good talking to for getting so weak or whatever or whoever works. Lots of Luck. By the way, be sure your friend is correct. They've been known to cause trouble too. When you're really mad, confirmation is not a hard thing to do. You don't have to keep his feeling in mind and his ex deserves to know just what a jerk he still is.
2007-02-05 08:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be a crazy lady..... If he is doing this at 8 months he ll do it forever. I would imagine you only want cos
a) You believe deep down he is that most nicest, wonderful guy really
b) You can change him
On both counts you are sadly wrong.
Think of all those nice diseases he could have given you... You re not dating a player... youre sleeping with an a*****le. Dont you want to be with someone who thinks that you are not worth the risk of losing? Drop him and you may get away with something curable.
2007-02-05 08:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by madgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r way to young gal,find someone esle,live that 44 divorced man with his kids who are the same age as u,he now things u one of his kids
2007-02-05 07:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
B nice to him & say, u still love him even after knowing the truth. This way, u give a chance to him, this relationship & of course to urself. Good luck & best wishes.
2007-02-05 07:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by rani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl you so dont need him .he may be nice but thats how a player plays ......hes really smoothe ,dump him . cause there was no true love from him to you might take time to get over him but time is a healer
2007-02-05 07:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by GURLY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but how can you trust him again after this? If it were me, I'd cut my losses and realise I deserved more. It's a real blow but you'll get over it and be better for it.
2007-02-05 07:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him already. People like him are not trustworthy and will cause you nothing but problems. Stop while you're ahead.
2007-02-05 07:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating a player sucks...since ges a player, if he hasnt changed yet chances are he never will. move on quickly thats best 4 u.
2007-02-05 07:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by wizzpack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is a liar and a cheat and he probably has exposed you to all kinds of diseases etc....why would you even consider being with someone like that....move on ....good luck
2007-02-05 07:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋