how do you get over a brokenheart?

Question

Ive just cut ties with someone I cant have because he is with someone else, it was for the best. But why do I still feel like crap? Any suggestions how I can forget someone that wasnt made for me? Suggestions and words of wisdom much appreciated

Answer 1

Give your self a month of sad movies, tears, probably illness, lots of chocolate &/or icecream and lenghty sessions of pure self pity. If you are a girl sex in the city really helps cos they had such bloody problems with men and still looked fabulous when they had got over it.

Then after your month of mourning (not for the lost partner but for your shattered self esteem) put on your glad rags, treat yourelt f to some treatments, put on your best high heels (again for the girls) and hit the town with your most loyal mates. Then dance like you have never before and smile.... cos your going to be just fine x

Answer 2

You're going through what is one of the worst feelings there is, perhaps second only to losing a loved one. Remember, everyone has gone through it, so try to find someone to talk to. Bear in mind, you need to pick someone you feel safe and secure opening up to.

The most important thing now is time. Restrain yourself from getting back in touch with him, perhaps even delete his phone number so you can't call or text in a moment of weakness.

I sometimes try to focus on the negatives of the person, so I realise I'm better off without them, although that can mean I think about them too much. Better to try to do something else to occupy your time and take your mind off him.

It will get better, but it'll take some time for the wounds to heal. All the best.

Answer 3

I'm going through the same exact thing right now, only I haven't been able to bring myself to cut the ties yet. I know how hurt you feel. I'm not really sure what I'm going to do either except surround myself with my friends who I know for sure care about me, and try to find ways to distract myself with hobbies I like, even though I don;t feel like doing anything at all but cry. Best of luck to you, stay strong, we'll be ok in the end hopefully.

Answer 4

I could say u can get over a brokenheart with: saying you don't care or starting a ne relationship or sitting and drinking lick fish over thier to themselves NO_You really don't get over any pane other wise there was nothing 2gain accept LOVE is crying and sometimes dying revealing only u and everywhere u go no one can explain how much true loss of love is painfully brought forth
and what say 4 her_or him can tell of your thoughts of love u had b4

Answer 5

Listen to this! It's not gonna be easy. But I'm suggessting that all with your Problem. (and there are many) Wasn't starting theie Love from The Heart. Your Heart is the Key, here. It's where Love is supoose to come frm. We've taken Our Hearts, out of Being In Love. If either of you had your feelings, coming from any other part of your Body. It's gonna fail. Next time, Listen to the thumping. it may be able to help you avoid this again. And it just may help you find that one true Heart. That happens to be beating, just for you! Love & Peace!

Answer 6

We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.

My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....

1.) throw away all her mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of her.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things she did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with her.
7.) Avoid seeing her.
8.)Avoid the places she frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve her.

Remember this:

GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE..

good luck buddy...wish you the best..=)

Answer 7

It's going to take time so surround yourself with friends. Go out and keep busy. Read books, exercise so the next time he sees you, you will look GREAT! Better yourself...try a new haircut, get a whole new wardrobe, take cooking classes maybe or pottery classes, read your bible and pray. Whatever you do, just keep busy so you don't think of him. Go to a new bar and meet someone new. You will be fine.

Answer 8

well the best medicine is time heals all wounds and try to get yourself busy with a new love or flirt and see whats out there a new lover will surely make your feelings swing to the other extreme. let himknow one more time how you really feel so just to acknowledge you tried everything and if he is just moving on he was never wirth you anyway

Answer 9

eww that is hard but everyone goes through it once but to get over a broken heart u cant stay home when u would be on a date get ur friends to go hang out to get ur mind off of someone. and just slowly get back to urself and start dating and again there is someone out there for everyone and u should no that but u have to hang out with friends to get away from the broken heart and better yet him.

Answer 10

he used u didnt he?
so tell ur self u made the right decision to leave him and his gal. u did ryt i say! u feel like crap coz u feel used..
since he wasnt made for u , uve realised. get out der, chill, so what ehs not urs.. theres plenty of fish in the ocean. lol. jus tkcr.. n keep urself boosted.
forget the worthless git. lol