help, torn between work and sick kids @ home?

Question

I am torn between my sick 10 year old and going to work, he was out sick last week and i was home with him for a day and a half, my boss says she understands but they need me at work and i need my job....i feel so torn, my kids come first, but i have to pay bills too...i keep telling myself i can find another job if i get fired, but i don't want to leave this job. i have been there a year and i have been out a lot, i have 3 kids ...it was a rough year last year, i was out with a hysterectomy and my dad had heart problems..ect....

any "nice" advice would help..i had some pretty harsh people answer my last question. :) thanks

Answer 1

I know how you feel I have two kids at home and I have always worked too. My ex-husband wasn't any help either. I had a period of time where my son was sick alot with ear infections and work got on me about how much time I was taking off. I finally told my boss that I would understand if they needed to replace me but if they were asking me to choose between my job and my children, I have to pick my kids. They backed off and I have been with the company almost 15 years. Now my kids are older and I don't have to take so much time. It is hard to balance work and home, but you are right when you say the kids have to come first. There will be another job if this doesn't work, but you only have your kids for a short time.

Answer 2

I would suggest finding a family member or friend to stay with your son. If you lose your job, it's going to be a whole lot harder on your son and other children than not having you home for one day when he's sick. If that isn't an option, maybe shop around for a responsible babysitter who wouldn't mind keeping your children when they are home sick from school. Local college students who have classes at night are a good option, also. I'm also a single parent, and thankfully now have my family close by who can help me out when my 11 yr old is sick.

Answer 3

I say talk with your boss about the situation. Sit down and really discuss it with her. Find out what is expected of you. If your boss is mature enough, she'll let you know what she's thinking and if you're in any trouble at all. Then, if you are, discuss the options. In my opinion, by getting the situation out in the open, you'll know where you stand with her, and be able to sleep at night.

I currently manage two employees, both of which have lives outside of work and children. They're always letting me know what's going on and why they'll be absent from work. Just last week, I made one of them go home to take care of their sick child, simply because I'm a father and know how nice it is to know you're okay to go home to do so. The other reason is, I don't want her to infect anyone else, especially my other employee. Talk with your boss. Good luck!

Answer 4

Do you have anyone else that can help you out? My mom has 4 kids (including myself, I'm 20 now though, so this applies to when I was younger ^^), so as you can see she had a handful as well :) But! My grandma was always there to help, every time we were sick we always went to grandma's so that mom could still go to work. Of course there were a few times that this could not be done, because my grandma likes to go out of town every once ina while. So, my mom would stock up on sick leave and use that for whenever we were sick. Other than that... you're ina pretty sticky situation if there is no one that can help you. I hope all works out for you!

Answer 5

All you can do is accept the fact that the welfare of your children come first. I have sought jobs that were more suitable for my single parent lifestyle so I can deal with the days that require time off. I am a father of two small ones, and I have lost jobs due to poor attendance, and I have just flat out quit jobs because I couldn't handle the stress of it all. One thing I found out quick was to surround myself with people who encourage you. I can't wait until I find a good woman. Keep your head up, it can only get better for us. Thanks.

Answer 6

Stay home with your kid. Jobs come and go and you were looking for a job when you found that one. I never put a job before my children when they're sick. But then again it's never been a problem with my job because I tell them straight up how it is and the company can replace me just as easily as I can replace them.

Answer 7

Hon, it is not your husband it rather is the concern - it is your daughter. She is going by pubery in the beginning which makes her psycho, and he or she is scuffling with with anybody, changing her techniques another minute, and so on. don't be an enabler. adolescents are infamous for manipulating, and it sounds like she is familiar with a thank you to manage you in each single place. positioned up a united front jointly alongside with your husband. Set regulations to your place. If she needs to stay w/ her dad - permit her. yet while she calls you every time thay have a combat -do not RUN AND GET HER. (manipulation, lower back) If she lives with you place the regulations, she is only considered one of four human beings interior the abode. the worldwide does not revolve round her.

Answer 8

I'm going to assume that you are not leaving the sick child alone....as long as someone is with him, you have to go to work...can't afford to lose the job ....I know it's a really tough choice but don't see another option...sorry...hope the kids are ok and hang in there mom....good luck

Answer 9

Do you have a reliable babysitter?
I know as a single parent choices like that are tough, I've had to give up some good jobs myself because my kids came first. Who wants welfare? Not me.

Answer 10

Ok am doing it for yo kids,a job is very important becuz u pay all yo bills wit yo income,find someone to baby sit for u,then explain to yo boss to give u day off.