my daughter always want mine and everyone elses food,even if she has eaten!! this can be very embarrassing and quite annoying at times.how can i stop this?? if you dont give her some of what you are eating, then she throws the biggest tantrum ever!!!!
2007-02-04 23:09:41 · 19 answers · asked by xloux 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
iv tried giving her food while we are eating but it doesnt work.she just wants mine!! and trust me,she never gos hungry because she doesnt stop eating!!
2007-02-04 23:25:54 · update #1
these answers are all great but shes 16 months old,she has been doing this for aslong as i can remember and she doesnt understand yet.so if i explain situations etc then she just looks at me an carries on having her tantrum.plus if i locked her away then she wouldnt understand why because she isnt old enough to understand x
2007-02-04 23:35:13 · update #2
My son is Two and a half and Ive had the same problem with hI'm for as long as i can remember I have even started to wait until he goes to bed at seven to have my dinner which is a major pain But when he is around and im eating i let him tantrum It can be embarrassing but who's a perfect parent? Short of tying her up what else can you do?! LOL She will grow out of it Eventually the tantrums get shorter
my son does still moan when he doesn't get what he wants (he's beside me now bugging me for some of my coke!) but its a great understanding for him to have Like my mum used to say to me ALL THE TIME You cant always get what you want!!!!
2007-02-04 23:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by merrick.osborne@btinternet.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is simple. The tantrums work so she will continue to get whatever she wants because she knows you want to avoid the tantrums. It's not just going to be the food.
Recommendations: You've got to show her what the relationship means to be the parent and her the child. Currently she's got the control over you - it should be the other way around. Stop responding positively to the tantrums. In public, you might take her outside the establishment or to the restroom and spank her (depending on your beliefs) or tell her she will not get what she wants from throwing the fits. Then give her an appropriate way to ask. In the beginning, you'll need to respond positively for most everything she does with the appropriate way - not saying no you can't. This reinforces the behavior plus gives her a way of seeking positive attention from you instead of the negative attention you've seen in the past when she throws the tantrums.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-04 23:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your daughter has one big problem. Tantrums over food. The good thing to do is that you have to ask her why is her habit/manner like that. Whatever she says don't get sad or mad at her. She'll just lose trust on you. After that, you should give her a situation similar to this:
What if you have very little food. A slice of bread and you go to someone whose has a slice of bread too. Then she can't give it to you because if she does, she'll be starving for the rest of the day. Don't you think that would be unfair?
After telling her a similar story to this, ask her what she will do about it. If she says something not good, then ask her why. If starts the tantrums, lock her up in her room for 2-3 hours. Let her think about it. If she says something good, tell her that when your in a guest's house its like that. So moral in here(and to tell her): Think more of others feelings.
2007-02-04 23:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kaka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your predicament. My toddler does the same. He eats his lunch at nursery, then comes home and helps himself to mine, even if I put him a little plate of food to appease him. He is always grumpy when he hasn't eaten and often eats lots of food in between meals (often fruit and organix bars).
It could just be that you have a very hungry child on your hands. If she will still eat her own meals and isn't overweight for her age or height I wouldn't worry too much about the fact that she is eating so much. Try to encourage her to eat from her own plate though. If you are trying to have a meal and you think she will be grabbing food off your plate give her a little helping of her own and tell her that is all she is getting :)
2007-02-04 23:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by franpal_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are eating at the same time, and the same food, it may be that she is still hungry. Or, otherwise, she may want more independance.I have a three year old who did the same thing, and I found that he wanted to try "more adult" food. He also disliked his food being pre cut and on a plate, He wanted it "bigger" I now put the food on the table and give him a plate and let him choose what he wants to eat. (protein, starch, vegetable). Cut his meat at the table. This gives him independance, and makes him feel more grown up and social.
If she is still hungry, offer her seconds of the vegetables and protein first.
Good luck
2007-02-04 23:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by stellabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing I can recommand you is to change your strategy. Just try to give her what you are eating before she wants because children do what you dont want them to do and dont do what you want them to do. Once or twice she will take what you are offering then will get bored and stop the habit. Or when she even starts to make a tantrum try to draw her attention to something else and then maybe she 'll calm down and give her something to draw or color on
But please dont try to punish her because she is too little to understand .
anyhow , ıt is difficult ı know so wishing you the best
good luck
bye
2007-02-05 00:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by MORTİCİA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start at home let her watch you make the plates say some for mommy some for daddy some from brother and lots for you all your own make sure and do this with every dish you may also try over loading her plate give hre more than you know shell eat if she likes hamburger more than mac and cheese give her more hamburger than mac and chese make sure shes got plenty because then you can say no you have the same thing on your plate eat that first then when she wants more from your plate get up and give her more on her own plate and say see special just for you
2007-02-04 23:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son (2) is also food obsessed - he wakes up in the morning asking for cake and pesters all day long for "more". He also steals food from our plates or out of the cupboad but is usually satisfied when he has his own.
Tantrums are best ignored - as long as your girl is safe, try leaving the room (with your plate) - there's no point screaming if there's no audience!
Best of luck.
2007-02-04 23:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by FancyFace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviuosly tryibg to tell you that she is still hungry....Start giving her the same stuff as you all the time, if she has picked up this habit then you will have to break it.A toddler needs atleast 3 proper meals and also 2 snacks.morning and afternoon....also a supper.....MUM of 8
2007-02-04 23:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by GRANDMA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so, your the mum, deal with the tantrum. Shut her in her room if you have to. It is learning right from wrong time
2007-02-04 23:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋