is punishing children when they r going in a wrong way is right ? or leaving everthing to GOD is better. am believing in GOD and i know everthing is for gud .but now am in confusion, bcoz when punishing child, we r punishing ourselves. i like to gave them freedom. wat to do:?
2007-02-04 22:49:33 · 19 answers · asked by doubtagain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is a parent's duty to lead their children into the path that they can follow their whole lives. You want your children to have moral direction and responsibility for their lives. This does not spontaneously happen. Children are taught moral and responsible behaviour by their parents.
"God helps those who help themselves". We have free choice in our lives. We are the ones responsible for the choices we make. We can only hope to do good in His eyes.
If teaching your children morality and responsibility means meting out punishment when deserved, then so be it. Just don't make the mistake of thinking that it is righteous to beat a child. Your are also responsible to Him for your own acts.
2007-02-05 00:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline your children when they act up. There is nothing in the Bible that says not to. Your children are not automatically programmed knowing what is right and what is wrong, you have to teach them! If you do not discipline them now, they will grow up being very rebelious and may get into a lot of trouble. I believe in both methods: physical and verbal punishment. If your children want to be disrespectful and talking isn't getting to them, give the child a good spanking (not slapping or punching. That's too far). The child will associate the pain with the action and is more likely to not repeat the action. Many people think spankings are child abuse but it's not. It has worked for decades before people started using it as an excuse for why they act the way they do. Spanking a child will not damage him/her mentally because I got plenty of them as a child and I'm not mentally challenged in any way whatsoever. Most of my friends go them as children and never went into a mental hospital for disturbing memories from their childhood. Time outs don't work and sending the child to his/her room doesn't work. If talking to the child about what they are doing being wrong and the consequences of their actions isn't working, a good spanking will handle all problems. It worked on millions before today's psycho-babble.
2007-02-05 02:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in God then you also believe he has some wisdom. If you believe he has wisdom then follow that wisdom. Spare the rod spoil the child isn't the best translation but close enough. This lets you know that a stinging set of buns will emphasis the lesson YOU want to teach. By letting the child discover the wrong direction for themselves is as close to neglect as you can get! When they reach an age of accountability you can confront them with the "no more spanking" theory and let them know you will no longer be there for them. I just don't see you as a complete parent using the God awful theory.
2007-02-04 23:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is right to give such punishment if your child commit a certain mistake and not to tolerate such things. But i am not giving you a suggestion to hurt them as worst as it may. We can physical hurt them nor in emotional means of. But as much as possible try to weight things, is it that too bad or just less. An appropriate punishment or simple ones will do like of not to allow him to go outside for a week for fun or something.
Make it sure that before you are to impose a kind of punishment for him/her, why don't you give him a warning and talk first. If it seems doesn't work, now that's the time you can raise your punishment fairly.
Of course, make them to realized that in every things that they went wrong might give them such punishment and this is for the sake of discipline.
2007-02-05 00:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Benoair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline is paramount in child rearing, you do not have to abuse a child, but setting limits and boundaries is a must, and if they disobey then a suitable punishment (such as loss of their TV Viewing time) can be affective. If you let your kids run riot and do as they please then you are setting yourself up for some hard times and your kids could turn out to be a total brat! There is an old saying "spare the rod and spoil the child" well I do not believe is beating a child, but we were disciplined and all of us have turned out OK. Children that are shown no direction will just end up as wasters.
2007-02-04 22:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first way is to tell them right and wrong and asking them to follow the right things, even then if they do the same I think the punishment is the right way. It may not be physical but depriving them from the favourite things like going out to some specific place or some thing like that.
2007-02-04 22:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the tenets of all religions God advises us by His word to discipline our children. He will not do it for you . It is your job. Children should be punished for wrong doing but in a loving, caring and encouraging way. parents have to be very patient and explain to children why they shouldn't do certain things that are harmful to their future or that are wrong. but if they are not changing one can start with mild punishment. type of punishment also depends on the age of the child. It doesn't involve hitting or hurting them but being firm and denying privillages where necessary. Read Dobson's book on "The Strong Willed Child" for details on type of punishment. If you dont punish them life itself will give them a harsh punishment when they grow up with bad habits because every action yields results. example, laziness leads to poverty and stealing may lead to imprisonment. I wish you all the best and pray with you that your children will become good children and grow into great and responsible adults in future.
2007-02-04 23:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Marian O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If children do things wrong and/or inappropriate and they are not punished for it, how will they know that they've done wrong and they should not do them again. I do not agree in hitting and causing injury or scars as a form of punishment. In younger children maybe spanking would have to be taken if words or orders can not correct their bad behavior.
2007-02-05 00:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by ShepAussie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not going to raise your children, He gave them to you to do that. "punish" does not mean physical anything, it means being firm with your children so they can grow up to be well adjusted and responsible people. If you never instill discipline in your children, in the end you are hurting them more than anything.
2007-02-04 22:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called discipline not punishment.
Yes, it is right to discipline children. They do not know the "rules" of life. Parents are there to teach them the right way.
Discipline means a time-out chair or suspending privileges.
Punishment usually means hitting or smacking. That is wrong.
2007-02-04 22:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋