I broke up with my boyfriend over something incredibly silly. I was complaining that he has stopped giving me attention and tellin me sweet stuff. The problem is, he hasn't, but I was just trying to get his attention by demanding it. He has been the sweetest person in the world. I know he cares about me and loves me very much. He even surprised me by following me to Dubai on New Years Eve to spend it with me. He does care, and he does give me attention, but I have no idea what went wrong in my head.
When I apologized to him a few days after that, he told me he never had feelings for me, never even wanted this relationship to begin with. This is not true because it totally negates what he has been doin for me the past 5 months (thats how long we've been together), but why would he say that? Why would he hurt me so much? And most importantly, how could I win him back without hurting my pride? Please help me!
2007-02-04 22:22:35 · 12 answers · asked by broken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, so you haven't had enough grief in your life? You really want him back? You know you might regret this, right? Just making sure.
First thing first, there might not be anything you can do to get him back. If you've tried everything and nothing works be prepared to face the fact that its over.
Now, about winning him back! Its best to follow this advise from the very start of your breakup. This is very hard to do and for some maybe impossible, but I have personally found this to give the best odds for bringing him home: STOP ALL COMMUNICATION WITH HIM! Do NOT call him. Do NOT ask his friends about him. Do NOT show up where you know he will be. NOTHING!
If you show any clingyness towards him he's going to run the other way. If you are indifferent (at least outwardly) about the breakup he'll probably start to wonder why.
If you have any of his things this is when he'll start calling and asking for them back. Don't answer the first few times he calls. Then when you think you're ready to see him without freaking out call him back. Tell him you're sorry you didn't call him right back but you've been busy (if he asks "busy doing what" avoid tempting answers like "dating your brother" instead talk about school or family).
Tell him you made sure nothing happened to his things and he can come and pick them up. Make sure he comes to you to get his things! Make any excuse you have to so that he comes to you to get his things. That way he's on your turf and the likeliness of seeing him with another girl, causing you an extreme freak out, is less apt to happen. (If he's a mega-loser he might bring the biotch with him though, just stay calm!)
Set a time for him to come. Make sure you are ready well in advance. And by ready I mean dress in his favorite outfit (or a new one that's similar in style), do your hair the way he likes it, buy new make-up, nail polish, perfume...ect to freshen up the image he has of you. Clean your place up. Oh, and hide any pictures, letters or gifts that he gave you where you know he won't see them (you don't want him thinking you've set up a "shrine of love" or anything creepy like that!).
When he gets there BE NICE! But don't over do it! When he's ready to go LET HIM! Continue being aloof with him.
This is usually enough to get him thinking that you're better then him and that he shouldn't let you go after all. That he might not have a chance to be with someone better than himself again.
I'm not sure exactly why this works, but, doing these things have re-sparked interest for an ex in men before.
This has personally worked for me more than once. Although, please take note, nothing can be guaranteed in love. There's no way I could say "This Will Work For You", I don't know that it will. I DO know that this is better advice for winning him back than the revenge ideas found elsewhere on this site. But hey, that's always a good backup plan, right?
good luck!
2007-02-05 01:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd promote off him asap. If he likes yet another lady and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? actual love would not play video games or have wandering eyes, that is dedicated and demanding artwork. you should make certain this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you're able to not also be pondering a intense courting that is going to reason you lack of self assurance. have relaxing, do not develop into overly invested in this, WHAT? you may't flirt? flow on, the writing is on the wall and it spells worry. Do your self a pick and shrink the guy loose, no matter if that is destined to be, that is going to run that is course and he will be lower back. yet why you may take him lower back in common words you may answer.
2016-11-25 03:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hurt him and for a stupid reason. When u apologized and told him why u did it, that hurt him more. He wanted to hurt u as much as possible so he told u all that. Seein as he went that road, I dont think u can get him back withOUT hurting ur pride. If anything, that will probably be the only thing that will have him take u back!
2007-02-04 22:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by pimpdaddy_mario 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chuck the pride and go after him. If he's as great as you claim he's worth it. Whether you get him back or not, stop playing head games or you might lose another!
2007-02-04 22:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by LadyLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do girl do this, why were u craving for attention wen u has him, wen u knew he loves u, now i think u shud tell him u were being kiddish because he thinks u wud repeat it, i hope he hasnt got somebody else now, because if thats the case then forget him, otherwise do something spl for him which will make him realize that u truly love him
2007-02-04 22:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're EX-boyfriend has already moved on. He has already found a nest elsewhere otherwise he wouldn't be so unkind to you. Do yourself a favor, don't even think about trying to win HIM back and start having some fun. You won't be on your own for long..........trust me!
2007-02-04 22:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first of all, u totally screwed up his feelings, cause by breaking up w/ him, u pretty much said i dont like u anymore, and then u expect to be his bf again. guys cant give girls attention 24/7, its not possible, so be happy w/ wat u get.
2007-02-04 22:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He realized how unstable you are and you would just end up hurting him anyways.... he's better off without you.
2007-02-04 22:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg. That is the way of dignity.
2007-02-04 22:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋