I'm finally getting fitter and healthier, but my partner does not take it seriously, and brings home junk food. I'm fine if we don't have any in the house as I don't feel tempted, but our ritual for so long has been to share these treats. How do I make her understand that I need to be fussy with food if I am ever to be a healthy weight?
2007-02-04 22:06:17 · 13 answers · asked by peppy 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
I do all the cooking, so it's really healthy at the mo- then she comes in saying 'look what I have for desert'! She seems to be laughing off my request to not bring stuff back. I am the person who has to finish the tub of ice cream if I start it. It's easy not to start it if it's not there. It's not her fault that I need to slim down, but I feel that she's not taking it seriously. She also wants to lose weight and get fit, but obviously doesn't want to do it with me.
2007-02-04 22:20:27 · update #1
Anyone trying to get healthy needs support from family and friends, I don't care what anyone says - it's true. The best way for your partner to show support is by keeping junk food out of your sight. Does she eat it in front of you? If she is she is being selfish and I would throw her junk food in the bin, and tell her to get serious about supporting you. Get angry if you need to, we are talking about life and death here.
2007-02-04 22:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could your partner be doing some sabotage?
Maybe even unconsciously. He (or she?) also needs to loose weight and wants to get fit, but probably is not willing to do the sacrifice. He (she) see your results and feels guilty, so probably some sabotage is on!
Talk to him (her?).
Reinforce your will power so as to be able to share a treat once in a while (nothing will happen with your fitness plan if you do, but there is a lot to gain as far as doing something you both enjoy), just stay within reasonable limits as far as quantity and how often you allow yourself this treat (like once a week).
Also do some exchange, something like: Alright, we will both have the ice cream together, but afterwards we will both do some jogging (or whatever cardio you like).
2007-02-05 06:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and have a proper talk with her and explain that you are now starting to feel better and healthier and that you need to keep treats down to a minimum and would appreciate not having them in the house all the time. Once in a while wont hurt though so purhaps you could have a once a week treat and make it an evening for the both of you something like that!
Good luck and well done on improving your health
2007-02-04 22:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by entertainer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you manage to buy your own fridge and go shopping for your own groceries? That should help you maintain your health and overall fitness. Give her or a friend you trust a list of groceries if you cant and to give you the bill to refund and make sure of the healthy foods. Health food can be a great treat to share and some have been known to be great mood boosters for the intimate moments. (Strawberries.) I hope this helps!
2007-02-04 22:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by snowstormstarborn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really tough question. What i do when my partner and daughter eat junk food, i prepare healthy food (as i have Hypercholesteraemia) such as pasta, salad,or anything low in fat, and eat at the same time as they do.
I am still having a family meal at the dinner table with out having to eat junk food.
2007-02-04 22:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by paramedicguy_au 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
am sure she doesn't mean any harm. you should be able to possess enough will-power to say no to those foods and in the nicest way possible tell her you would rather not because you know the dangers of those foods. also try to get her into healthy eating so you guys can share healthy treats such as grapes, rice cakes, low fat yogurt and so on
2007-02-04 22:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by snowflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was probably a main part of your marriage, sitting down together and having your 'treats', you obviously have woken up and thought to yourself this aint healthy but she hasnt yet, just sit down with her and explain that you can do other fun things together it doesnt have to involve pigging out. joint the gym together maybe or go jogging, if you say it often enough and serioulsy enough she will get the hint.
2007-02-04 22:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just said. If a person REALLY cares about you and your health, they will show it by not putting temptation in front of you. If they're not willing to change, well, do they really care that much??
2007-02-04 22:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by RBRN 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
..Have you no will power ? try carrots or apples... just because your on a diet plan to better health does not mean your partner has to follow your lead . have on hand some low carb foods for yourself and use your will power to stay away from junk food !
2007-02-04 22:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
TALK to the lady and explain it in easy to understand terms. and use your willpower as well.
Good luck and encourage your lady too.
2007-02-04 22:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by confused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋