I was with my guy a year and a half. We were even engaged for 7 months of it. Last October we broke up and it was somewhat mutual. We'd given it every last shot it had. We talked for the first two weeks following. Then I decided the only way to get over him was to not talk to him and just be angry at him. I had to be angry with him to focus on his flaws and realize we really weren't meant to be. I talked to him a couple more times after that. Every conversation we had turned out to be about my butt and how much he liked it during sex. Blah blah blah. I was actually getting sick of hearing it. Then two weeks ago I was stupid and looked at his little facebook and myspace pages and he has a new girlfriend. Why the hell did I look at that? I felt like I was getting over him and I hardly thought about him. Now I think about him everyday again even though I definitely wouldn't want him back. I'm actually jealous about him moving on and loving someone else. Anyone else going through this?
2007-02-04 21:21:23 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've all been through that. (Except maybe the guy who answered this question first. He probably doesn't get much action.) Anyways, it's normal to feel jealous and for something like that to stir up old emotions, but it's just a "relapse" all you can do is wait it out and eventually you'll be completely over him. And try your hardest to stay off of his myspace and facebook pages. You shouldn't have to see that, you're just torturing yourself! It's easier said than done, but try to just focus on your own happiness and don't worry about what he's doing. And I'm sure you already know this, but someday you'll meet someone that you're completely happy with, then you really won't care about your ex. Just hang in there.
2007-02-04 21:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep!!! the best thing to do is forget about him. My ex not only have a new girlfriend but i found out from his multiply that he had a girlfriend other than me from another school. That made me forget him. That was awful. You must move on and never even consider being with him again. You don't deserve a user like him. I felt the same way about the getting jealous part because he had move on. Find someone else you'll see he's not worth lamenting about. Doesn't mean that he has a new girlfriend that he had already move on my ex although he kept saying that he does I just don't think he ever did because he kept on buggering me. Find yourself a great guy. Goodluck!!!
2007-02-05 05:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE..
good luck buddy...wish you the best..=)
2007-02-05 10:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there, you just have to move on at your own pace. I dated a guy on the rebound, that sounds terrible, but that helped me move on back then. I have a friend who started volunteering and that took ALL her time off of it, but the only thing thall get you over him is time. So just take your time, and itll get easier and better and you'll find someone
2007-02-05 05:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. O'Neill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
l sometimes write letter to my ex-girlfriend. l just send her a vanentine's day card. After sending it l tell myself that was the last one but a few months later l'll write again.
2007-02-05 05:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋