Everyone around my fiance and me are trying to control us...always suggesting what to do...where to live...when to get married....I'm so afraid it's gonna affect us....and that's the exact same reason my fiance had lived abroad for sooo long in his life....and he came back now so that we can be together....but i'm so afraid it's gonna get to us especially him
2007-02-04 20:53:28 · 5 answers · asked by big h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tune it out, only one person is in control of your destiny and that is you. If your fiance doesn't like it, try to avoid situations where you two are around the family. Sometimes we need to detatch ourselves from our families.
2007-02-04 20:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family's are best at driving each other crazy...but they don't do it on purpose. You know how when you're in the middle of things..you don't see the wrong in it and get carried away...too excited..that you don't realize or see the damage you may be doing. This is the same thing. They love you..and your fiance. And are excited about the whole marriage thing. They will continue to drive you crazy. No doubt about that.
What the BOTH of you could do is..be the bigger party. Take their suggestions graciously..with a smile and a pinch of salt. Not all that they say is gospel. Just listen. But make decisions between the both of you..privately..and stand by your decisions. Unless of course you think once in a while they really do give good suggestions.
But ultimately..just listen..smile..and be nice to them. After all..family will always be there..somehow..thru thick and thin..good and bad. You dont have to take their suggestions..but dont fight with them either..allow them to have small roles in your wedding. Good luck.
2007-02-05 05:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by KIV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no. that's bad...families can be quite irritating.they should be supportive in the relationship of their children instead of commanding them to make an exact date for the marriage, tell them the right thing to do, as if they were the one's who would get married. if you're gonna get married, that means you're of age to know what to do and because of that, you could decide for yourselves. and if you don't want to hurt them by telling them they should stop, for they might think that you don't want or need their help, just go away for a little while and then make plans and then talk to them before the marriage. they will find out how wrong they were to not let you be the one to decide for YOUR wedding. :) and they should know too by this time, that u are responsible for things like this. it's as if they don't trust you in doing or planning the wedding. hm...i know parents just want the best for their children, but children should also be given a chance to prove what they can do without the help of their parents. they would show what their parents had taught them and the parents would see that, if just, they would let their children do their own thing at the age before marriage.
2007-02-05 05:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by sAndy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have some dysfunction in our family for instance after taking care of my disabled father in law, my dying husband for 10 years the moment the last one passed on his family went rabid or something. Genetic flaw in the design, best advice? Elope and email them in a couple of years. Who knows they might even acknowledge you exist, some are so self centered they don't even know they cause you pain. Be the better person and try a few more times and if they still ignore you? Move on...they are only geneomes and cells...love matters more. Soul Mate love matters most. Choose.
2007-02-05 04:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a meeting!!!!
2007-02-05 04:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by gvemethreesteps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋