Me and my girlfriend are adults. We have been going out for a month now. Every since the beginning of our relationship from day one or two we have been arguing. Now we don’t know what to say anymore. We are analytical and don’t like it when me or her acts smarter then the other as we do at times—we analyze all the time. We argue still and get mad at each other everyday. We cannot call each other without a disagreement or getting angry. It seems like we are incompatible. Maybe will hate each other? Is all this arguments and getting angry everyday normal? What do I do so we stop arguing and getting angry? Even my friends say me and her argue way too much. If she doesn’t want to change that’s okay with me… but what should I do to make it right? I love her a lot and I don’t want her to break up with me. She says it’s me… I feel so stupid like I am the one who starts the arguments. How do I make it right? I am willing to change anything for her.
2007-02-04 20:21:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She means everything to me… so if you think it’s my fault tell me. I want to change for her.
2007-02-04 20:24:51 · update #1
I have been in this EXACT situation more than once. My advice is to break up and move on. Yes, I know it's extremely hard to do. But it's just going to be harder to do the more time goes on. Trust me, you'll be glad you did, and you'll look back and say "Geez, how did I put up with that for as long as I did?" I know there's that hope inside of you that maybe there's one or two things you have to change and everything will work out, but as it's only been a month (regardless of how intense things might be), I still strongly advice letting go.
2007-02-04 20:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love & hate are cousins and as long as you or she does not want to break up everything is alright. To keep on arguing and not reaching an agreement is just in the going as time goes on everthing would be all right. Do you thing that relationship & marriages are easy going ? never It is a committment between both the partners that they will stick together at all times even after facing both known and unkown hurdles . All the best.
2007-02-05 04:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is lucky to have your so much love to her, but the thing is that you two's bliefe, understanding and expectaions differ, hence you two are like at the two different sides of the river that is not willing to join eachother at any point. To omit this distance, i would suggest you two try not to contact in any way for a couple of weeks that will more indicate your feelings for eachother, moreover you would reach to aself understanding of what you really want. That would make it easy for you both to either bring a change to your bahaviour or accept eachother much better and come to a mutual understanding. Best of luck!
2007-02-05 04:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u two adults acting immature.u both want to b winners in yo relationships & that sucks.if u really want to change, let her b the winner even if she's wrong,she will soon c something has changed here and will get tired of winning.give yo opinion & let her carry the day if she wish,then u still make love dispite not being a winner,
2007-02-05 04:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't really matter who's fault it is. If you don't agree on many things, that's not a good foundation for which to build a future. Let her go like the adult you say you are.
2007-02-05 04:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man, you need to understand that women tend to be unreasoable, and it's your responsiblity to deal with it with patience.
Unfortunately, you're viewing this as "two people quibbling." You don't sound like you have a lot of strength or understanding. You're seem like the type of man who yearns for approval.
2007-02-05 04:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋