I need help getting out of a depression right now. Primarily, I need to meet more people. I'm in college and about to turn 21 (yay bars), but other than that I'm inherently shy. Does anyone have any advice on how I can start being more outgoing?
2007-02-04 19:29:43 · 5 answers · asked by asleep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that there are reasons why people become shy people, so I suggest you ask yourself what makes you shy around people. Sometimes it has to do with confidence. I learned after doing a lot of work, the bottom line is to just be who you are and not feel that you have to be like the others. Be honest about who you are, your family, your education, your likes and dislikes, even if you think you're different. You'll be surprised that they'll appreciate you anyway and might even find you interesting. Another thing I realized is that some people are different from the majority and so they have to find their own kind, even if its more difficult to find them. If you're an artist, intellectual, activist, find your own kind and I think you'll be more comfortable, if not happier with them. Sometimes that's just the reason. Maybe you are different than most, so find those who are different like you. But be yourself in front of everyone, no matter who they are. Reveal your true self. That's what people like. Good luck.
2007-02-04 19:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a choice...I chose not to have depression.
Positive thinking.
Positive self talk. Yes I am shy but I'm a great guy and fun to be around.
First look at the people around you and then identify the people you want to be friends with then just start talking. Hi guys or just Hi to someone. You have nothing to loose the reason you have nothing to loose is because you are someone that has something to say you are confident,intelligent and fun to be around.
Stop saying negative things to yourself. I'm sure their are alot of students at the college that feels the same way. Maybe you can make friends with them.
2007-02-04 19:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by janice m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join something, some kind of group in college that interests you. Common interests are the easiest way to make (and keep) friends. Go to concerts, discussions, shows, galleries that interest you. Again you'll find people that you already have something in common with maker it easier for you. Do some walking or other exercise. It helps keep you feeling happier in general which attracts people to you. Try it! It works!
2007-02-04 19:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well i have the same problem there is no easy way to just stop being shy you should start slow by talking to one or two new people and then more than likely they will introduce you to there friends....
2007-02-04 19:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don focus on yrself knowin new ppl, focus on them n their interests..plus don go way too deep knowin ppl, the more u know them the worse it goes cuz all have got stupid sides, make it like knowin many ppl everywhere at evry chance , talk about stiff that don gve u down time n express urself the way it is
2007-02-04 19:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by skepti m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋