Date question... to send a thankyou note or not?
Do guys like it when a girl sends them a thank you note 3+days after the date. We went out for a drink. It was fun and we chatted. He dropped me at home and I said thanks, I had fun... I haven't heard from him and was wondering if it is polite to send a thank you note. You do it when you go to someone's house, a party, etc... He is very polite and well educated. We didn't kiss or hug but had lots of eye contact
Thanks
PS if you want to also answer...
How do you create chemistry on a date without flirting over the top if its a first date? i'm 21 and don't flirt to much on 1st dates.
2007-02-04 19:19:22 · 14 answers · asked by coolchick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he hasn't called by now forget it. He's not interested, and you would be wasting your time. Save it for a guy who cares.
2007-02-04 19:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Modest intellect 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok he should not call you or have any contact with you for the first 48 hours, it is the role. and after that he will call you but he won't do it right away because he will look desperado, he could how ever call you the nest day if he was really into you and there was some kind of chemistry, or he you guys knew each other before and had just stared dating, but as a stranger he won't call you soon, now about you wanting to drop him a thank you note, it is totally appropriate, and will remind him to call you back, so go on, write him just ONE LINE. no more than that, TRUST ME. and thank him for the wonderful time you had, and after that wait. the wait period is any where from 5 minutes to 48 hours, and if he did not respond then he is a big A hole, forget about him and move on while you still have your dignity. good luck..hope it works out for you.
2007-02-04 19:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending a thank you note makes it sound way too formal, like he just bought you a present or promoted you at work. If I were you, I'd just give him a call and see what's up. You don't really thank a guy for taking you out on a date; in fact, it makes you look kind of vulnerable in a way... that's just my opinion. I've never sent a thank you card to anyone who took me out on a date.
2007-02-04 19:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by mattysmommy2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's a note or whatever, THANK YOU always means alot to anyone. Go,say thank you. 1st dates are supposed to be a getting-to-know-you period. Talk when you have to,and always have an ear for what your date says. Don't lookk for the perfecr guy,no one is.Concentrate on what made you interested in your date. Changing his negative side is done when you are already intimate,meaning,you know how to criticize without offending him. Good Luck
2007-02-04 19:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by patrick miranda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to send a note... anyway it is a sign that you really appreciate your date... and giving a thankyou note is a sweet way of showing your appreciation... uhm... on your second question, chatting about yourselves is a good way of creating chemistry between individual...at the same time you will know each other welll creating a more strong foundation to a later on relationships....
2007-02-04 19:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by myoga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, sweety....you dont send a thankyou note....you call back for a second date!!!! lol
And you can create chemistry by asking alot of questions...comparing interests...asking about passed experiences....you can keep it G-rated, and learn alot of someone...and maybe even spark a common interest, and MAYBE even make the person your on the date with come crawling back for a second date....DYING to know more about you...
2007-02-04 19:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jay L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you didn't go to a party or some event or something, you went on a date, so a thankyou note is not proper in this situation, it just seems impersonal, best thing to do is to call him and say thankyou or better yet to say thankyou in person to him, and if you liked him then even better would be to ask him out for a second date
2007-02-04 19:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to send a "thank you" note 3+days.. at least, you grabbed an opportunity to thank a gentleman and there's nothing wrong about it right?... he might find it sweet and probably ask you out again.. i don't believe in "setting chemistry" in a date.. all you need to do is to BE YOURSELF. that's all.
2007-02-04 19:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by nostaglia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It wasn't a job interview. If he is interested, he will try to make contact. You lose the control if you are the first to break the silence.
2007-02-04 19:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's 2 thing here, whether he's not interested or he's waiting for u. just sent him the note, and u'll know. chemestry cannot be created, it must come by itself.
2007-02-04 19:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by kaled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋