for some reason..my confidence level towards my boyfriend is going down..probably because i'm always thinkin about him comparing me to his other girlfriends in the past that that sometimes i'm not living up to his level or something..
how do i overcome that stage of low confidence
2007-02-04 19:17:14 · 15 answers · asked by lalala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shyness comes out of fear. First of all are not good looking, are not dressing pretty. Are you not cheerful and talkative , then why the fear . It is only because you know that he has more friends and you are afraid that you will lose the race. Never have this fear be positive go ahead keep on meeting him, talk to him , try to engage him as long as possible without disturbing him. Make him feel that you are the best friend for him and basically forget all your fears and say to yourself that whatever you do is on good for you and go ahead without fear. More over there is something called body language which tell you more than what the person states. That is reading his gestures, movements, his eye contact etc, etc Study all this and act accordingly .Thats all nature would take care of the rest. All the best.
2007-02-04 19:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in the wrong section. But i will try to help. Shyness stems from insecurity, low self esteem and low confidence. You have been socially conditioned to be shy, maybe because you were picked on, or did not have enough positive reinforcement as a child... unfortunately this has effected you as an adult (you are an adult arent you?) What i suggest is this. First. Realize most people are shy to some degree. Everyone has reservations when dealing with other people to some extent, everybody doubts themselves and has insecurities. You are not alone in the way you feel. Secondly, to deal with shyness you are going to have to be persistent, it is going to take time and practice. Start off with some very small things you could do. smile to a check out clerk and ask how there day is. build up from small to large. Analyze the way you think. Google "distorted thinking" and read up you may be surprised what you find, and eliminate any negative thinking patterns. Third. Be kind to yourself..and respect yourself. No one is going to do that for you. Do not put yourself down. Try not to dwell on things. What has happened has happened and look towards the future for improvement. ignore insults. Remember compliments. If you cant talk to people in real life, find a forum online for people who suffer from shyness. Read up on things you can do. You can escape if you really want to.
2016-03-29 05:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must stop comparing. He loves u and maybe u also love him. Love is spiritual not physical. So stop comparing physical assets and get an inferiority complex. There is no level u are supposed to reach. U are at the level, so he loves u, if u try something different, he may leave u. So be yourself and have the confidence that he loves u for what u are.
2007-02-04 19:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's YOUR boyfriend isn't he?? That should be enough for you. I have had girlfriends with low self esteem in the past and if is very difficult to maintain a solid relationship when one of you is not convinced that one of you is not right fit, especially if you think that person may be you.
2007-02-12 18:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by mwhyte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different peoples have different qualities through which they got their own entity ,so don't compare herself with others, u r good in ur own ways that's why ur b/f loves u. So don't try to change urself. whtever u r, think positive. Nobody is perfect in this world.
2007-02-04 19:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about what other people think about you. Don't have bad thoughts of him comparing you with his ex-girlfriends. Infact, never bring up his ex-girlfriends, or bring up the past.
Don't be someone who you are not. Just be yourself! (smile)
2007-02-04 19:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
boyfriend needs to work harder on building your confidence too in the relationship, and tell u good things. sounds like he is talking too much about his ex's
2007-02-12 18:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by susan q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with you not his ex girlfriends so your obviously better than what he had or he would still be with them. just believe in yourself and go for it. do something which makes you feel good about yourself and seduce your man to let him know you love him. go for it and make it memorable for him so he knows your better than his previous conquests, because you are!
2007-02-12 10:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it continues, you two will surely fall apart.
So realize that he is with -you- now, so he must have a reason...he must not be too concerned with how you match up with his ex's...and they obviously werent what he wanted....where as you are...
2007-02-04 19:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by SadPoet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See shynessexpress.com
it will help ya alot
2007-02-08 09:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋