I still think about him a lot and like him a lot. If he were to call and want to hang out (which he does like every 3 months or so) I still go and hang out with him. (which of course when we hang out is only a physical thing where he uses me more) Is this bad?
2007-02-04 19:08:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah its bad dont hang out wit him. the fact u still like him means you are only human. you know he rejected you and you might be holding on. cause if he ever really started caring you wouldnt have to admit to yourself that he never liked you in the first place. meet the challenge head on. face the facts (he used u and doenst care about u ) and cut him off cold turkey. by meeting up with him every 3 months you are only reopening the wounds and stalling the healing process even longer. just completely drop him. deal with the pain/ feel the pain, and move on ( eventually) good luck and im sorry you got used, you are better than that and deserve better * HUGS*
2007-02-04 19:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was your father in your life or is he if so then ask yourself how did he treat your mom or you for that matter, allot of times what we put up with in men is what our basic role models were in or lives and allot of times girls tend to go after the wrong guys who treat us like dirt because somewhere in the back of our minds subconsciously we think we deserve to be treated that way could be because dad was never around and we feel that it was our fault somewhere in our minds, I'm not saying me but us as women that's what tends to happen, others tend to think they can't or don't deserve a guy who will love and respect them they have low self-esteem so, what you should do is start pampering yourself as you feel better on the inside it will show on the outside and you will be surprised at how many men would want to go out with you, guys love a woman who is confident and sure of herself, take some time stay away from that guy because he's like poison he won't do you any good, do some soul searching, find who you are as a woman and what you went through in the past does not define who you are today keep your head up and take care of yourself, love yourself because if you can't love yourself how can you possibly love anyone else?
2007-02-05 03:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just try to work on yourself first and worry about yourself. Forget him if he used you. Hanging out with a guy who doesn't care about you like that makes you a bit of a glutton for punishment.
Yes, it's bad, it's bad for you and your esteem. Especially if you
are aware that he used you. Don't allow yourself to get hurt.
2007-02-06 22:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by CrowsFeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont stop loving someone at once because he used you .It will take time to forget him and so the struggle now is to fight the urge to go back to him.Even if you love him, he is just after using you and will continue if given a chance.So put in the fight not to take youself back to him.It will take time but eventually the battle will be won.
2007-02-05 03:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have your feet glued to the floor, run girl run!!! This dude needs to find a prostitute if he's hard up. You need to get some self respect and realize you're worth more than an occasional one night stand.
2007-02-05 03:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your definition of bad. If it doesn't bother you then of course it isn't bad. If it does bother you and you continue in this behavior, then you are engaging in self-destruction and might want to consider a bit of soul searching and/or therapy to get to they root of your masochism. Good luck to you and God bless...
2007-02-05 03:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this guy just has sex with you and thats it?
Do you feel like your being used? If you enjoy being with him and having a fling then thats totally up to you. But if you want something more with him then tell him. Do you want to date him?
Please reply back to me. Feel free to contact me about this.
2007-02-05 03:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Frak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means you are just like every other girl in the world..... how does that feel? how does it feel to know that you are just like every other girl who doesn't use her head and passes on someone who could actually treat them right? keep seeing the guy because you don't deserve to have a guy treat you right.
2007-02-05 03:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sadistic of you to do this. But, if you choose to do this, you CAN'T whine to ANYONE about this, because you already knew you were bringing this on yourself !
Wake up, & get some respect for yourself (HE obviously has none for you). It sounds like YOU are using HIM too!
2007-02-05 03:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know that its bad... but just doesnt want to admit it.
he uses you and leaves you... i dont think anyone deserves to be used like that.
get over it. you liked something that you thought was in him. something that you wished he had but he doesnt. like respect. he wouldnt use and leave you if he did have respect.
trust me. i have a friend in your position.
look outside your own view and see you better you should be treated.
2007-02-05 03:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by ladybleu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋