i've been in a 2 1/2 year relationship with my boyfriend and we have a 1 year old daughter. our relationship has been rocky the whole time and especially now, we fight almost everyday. we get to be so mean to each other. i find myself hating my life, and everything in it (except for my daughter). i want it to change, but i'm scared that i'm making a huge mistake. i want to make sure my daughter has the best life possible, but i find myself wondering if i even love her father anymore and if i would be better off without him. we are so different and everything he does annoys me. i feel so bad b/c i think he really loves me and i don't think i feel the same anymore, not after all the fighting. is it time to end it and how do i even do it?
2007-02-04 18:59:30 · 11 answers · asked by lost23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him that u need your way out. For breakups, there is no best way because it involves hurting somebody u really care about. It doesnt help the child to grow up in an unhappy relationship. that does not give ur child any best enviroment for growth. Im sorry about that but it so happens sometimes.
All the best
2007-02-04 19:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, you will only truly know in your heart what to ACTUALLY do -- because none of us really know what's going on or how you feel completely.
If you really don't like where your life is headed, or what is going on in your relationship -- it should end. It's unhealthy for both of you to continue fighting and enduring something you both don't want to be a part of. Your daughter will get the life meant for her and it'll be the best you could do. I'm sure.
Before you do anything though, let your partner know how you feel... without fighting. See what goes from there and how he responds, and I promise you -- THEN you will know what to do with your future.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 19:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ariel♥ish♥ness♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the same, yes.
Simply if you stay and fight every day you will have a negative effect on your daughters understanding of relationships, and her enviroment will be less than happy. You want her to have the best, so you should try to build a loving supportive enviroment for her. Keep her father in her life, and she will thank you for it. it is also better now than having a big messy split when she is older, and will have clearer memories of the anger and arguments.
2007-02-04 19:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do and in the end that will have to be your decision. If I were in your situation though I would either end it or take a break from him until we can work things out. Noe child should be around that kind of tension or people fighting around her all the time. So for the child's sake, end it or find a way to get along before she's old enough to understand what's going on.
2007-02-04 19:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats too bad u decided or maybe not,to bring a child into this world. I've learned that no child deserves to be "unplanned" You should be in love and married and not to mention in a healthy relationship and be able to support the child. Im 100 percent against abortion but maybe u could have given the child up for adoption. Im not trying to sound horrible. Im sure you love your child but get it together or be single and set a good example for ur child. You model behavior to your child. I've learned more than one could ever imagine from my church pastor, expecially today! You want to build up your spouse/bf, expecially in front of ur child. My pastor said today, let them see mom and dad making out in the kitchen. Basically love each other and always say wonderful things about the other expecially in front of the kids. Im so excited, Im going to be the perfect wife next time! I want to share my excitement and make a postive impact on other peoples lives. Im buying the tape of it next Sunday. So you could get help from Church. Also Dr. Laura has some incredible books out and she's on the radio every day M-F. Check her website.
2007-02-04 19:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by kayla k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why you don't get pregnant in the first 6 mths of a relationship. if you don't want to be with your baby's daddy, then end it with him. all the fighting isn't helping the kid, even at 1 1/2 yrs, she still senses tension. he will still need to support her, and unless he is a terrible father, still gets to see her. so you will still have to deal with him for the next 17 years. try a separation period, and that means no contact, except about your daughter, and no sex.
if it's better to be separated, then do it. you'll know it.
2007-02-04 19:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's time to end it as he is no longer in love of u cos of fighting.try to go other place 4 a holiday with ur daughter only.
2007-02-04 19:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try counseling for the two of you to end your rocky relatoinship (fix it) if you want to put in the time and effort that is. which i htink you should. its worth a try and if that doesnt work out in a while then just leave .
2007-02-04 19:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your daughter hears the arguments and can't help but wonder if she was at fault. if the fights continue, she will be emotionally harmed (at best). leave him if it doesn't change.
2007-02-04 19:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just end it,,, do like every other women does.... sneak around his back, and make plans for a better life without him...and when the time comes to dump him.. WHAM!!!!!!! He'll never know what hit him.. he'll be so confused,,, that by the time he realizes what happens... you'll ne long gone, in some other city.... trust me... that tact really works...
2007-02-04 19:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋