My 4 yr old starts school in September she has never been away from me ,I'm having anxiety over this.I know she will cry the whole time she's there the first day
what can I say or do to make her feel more at ease.
2007-02-04 18:45:56 · 5 answers · asked by selma b 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I though t I would have this problem, big time, as my 4 year old only ever went to my mother, but when she was 3, I called the kinder and asked if I could get her in for the last term, one morning a week to get her ready for 4 year old (which she is in now). I had all these suggestions given to me, tried them, and had no dramas, my daughter has loved going from the first day!. (I must admit point 2 & 6 were the best!!!, and my 2 year old got to go too when I was on roster, and has a blast!)
1. Contact the kinder, and talk to the teacher or the 'principal'...
Ask if you can make it like an orientation and take her for an hour 2 weeks before you are due to start, then and hour the week before.
2. I'm not sure if all kinders are like this, but my daughters kinder for every session requires a parent to help cut fruit, write names on pictures the kids do, and read and play with the kids, if yours does this, stay, but bare in mind you can't only play with your child, but you are there!!!....
3. Maybe try and find someone else in the area who has a child going there, and have the child come for a play, then when kinder starts, she will know someone!.
4. Try dropping her at family/friends place for an hour or so, to get used to you not being there all the time!.
5. If she loves praise and feeling like a 'big girl' try the old all the big kids have to go to kinder, and you want to be a big girl don't you? You can't be a big girl and not go to kinder.
6. Get her involved, go and buy a kinder bag, a drink bottle, and a little outfit she can wear 'only at kinder' (she will need all these things for kindy anyway, and if she picks it out, she would be busting to use them!)
Goodluck!
2007-02-04 21:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Missy Missy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you should start her yet? Just because she'll make the cutoff doesn't mean you need to start her. Maybe a year of preschool before would be just what she needs. I'm going through the same thing with my very very shy and passive 4 year old. She'll probably make the cut off but my husband wants to wait to start her so she's not the youngest and shyest in the class. She doesn't cry when she's away from me though. Good luck and I would try talking to her about what will happen if you do decide to start her. Can you volunteer in her classroom maybe once a week?
2007-02-05 03:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by latterdaylady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i drop ed my daughter off the first day of her first year of school i though the same thing she had never been away from me and she would freak when i left her but it was the other way around we walked in the teacher greated us showed us where she would sit my lil baby looked up at me and said "mommy what are you waiting for you can go now " i felt like i was kicked in the face i cryed all the way home and she was fine
talk to him/her let them know what school is and how it works they stay and you come home make sure they know you will be coming to pick them up in a few hours try play dates before school starts it will help both of you
2007-02-05 03:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had done the same thing. cry when my son went to pre-k his first day. Just insure her that she will have lots of fun and meet new friends, they will play and create art. Let her know that it is very fun to go to school and learn things and she can even bring snacks and lunch with her. Make her fun lunches with surprises inside and have her help you in the morning putting it together, then she will be excited to eat it during lunch. best of luck.
2007-02-05 04:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by ompie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dr.Bach flower remedies will help your child to adjust with the new atmosphere. Councelling and the flower remedies will help you feel ease when she is away.
2007-02-05 07:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by jolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋