I've had a girlfriend for about 6 months now. Lately, I seem to keep misworking things or saying stupid stuff that really hurts her feelings. We've talked about it and gone over where I need to think and where I need to change my ways so I can stop hurting her (which I really, REALLY want to do) but I somehow manage to keep doing it, and I dont know how!!
Tonight, i hurt her again. This was the first time that she actually talked about leaving me because of it. She says she can't keep doing this, being hurt at night and acting like nothing happened the next day. I dont want her to do that, I want to stop myself from hurting her in the first place, but I just don't know how. I think before I talk, I watch my words, and I do whatever I can to keep her happy, but I just keep hurting her like this.
How can I stop myself? Losing this girl would hurt me so much, I can't bear to think about it.
2007-02-04 18:43:35 · 10 answers · asked by trainboy765 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask her or think thru what words or actions hurt her so much and stop dem~!~!
2007-02-04 18:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by Vani R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should approach her about this problem before you say something again - so that it is not just an apologetic action.
Bring it up when you both have time to talk about it, and when you're both in the right mindset to do so. Explain to her that you hate hurting her, and that you are having difficulties getting rid of the habit of saying the wrong thing. Explain to her that losing her would really hurt you, and that you are thinking about ways to stop doing this.
I think that letting her know that you are aware of the problem, and that you are being proactive about it will really show her that you care and tat you are not just dismissive about it.
it also wouldn't hurt if you left this page open on you comp for her to see "accidently".
2007-02-04 18:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by erin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help. This could be a mental issue. Talk to your doctor and tell him/her the urgency. Doctors won't help usually unless you let him know that it is extremely serious. Take your girlfriend to the doctor's visit with you so that she can verify to the doctor of how much in need you are. Really, this is about the only way that you can get help.
2007-02-04 19:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you don't really value your gf much? If you did, you wouldn't be hurting her. Something in your instinct is warning you that you don't want to keep her in your life. How about taking a break from her to sort your feelings out?
2007-02-04 18:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by bourbon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What things are u saying, what are u doing?? She could also be overly sensitive. Try &analyse what u say &how, then try harder, but she must also up her understanding of u-to know u dont mean it.
If she still says u hurt her, then let her go..there isnt another way.
2007-02-04 19:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a same situation he said he hurts me so I would leave him and find someone else because deep down he feels he is not good enough for me.. maybe there is a part of you that feels she deaves someone better
2007-02-04 18:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried and it is not working then just leave her.You have failed to make her happy.Find another person who you will be youself with her and she will not be hurt by what you say but will just laugh
2007-02-04 18:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what you say at all?? Why don't you spare her the pain and break up with her since you are apparently unable to control what comes out of your mouth.
2007-02-04 18:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it might be the way you say things or how your word them all i can say is pay more attention to what you say and how you say it.
2007-02-04 18:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Alex E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol tape your big mouth shut. but i don't think u do care for her. maybe she should move on
2007-02-04 18:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by prettynpinksub 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋