I was at a wedding reception when I ran into my friend's wife. She told me he wasn't with her, and in fact they were getting a divorce She told me that they had been seperated for a few months. Confident, I asked her up to my hotel room for casual sex. She politely obliged and we proceeded to have sex in the hotel room. I then walked her to her car and she left. I haven't seen her since. 2 years later and I find out they got back together soon after, but a few months later actually got a divorce, and now have nothing to do with eachother. I've been hanging out with him quite a bit lately, and wonder if I should tell him.
2007-02-04 18:31:24 · 42 answers · asked by Hand Banana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope. It's none of his business.
Telling him won't make him any happier. There's plenty of misery in the world, you don't need to add to it.
Do you want to ask her out again? I doubt it. So keep it as a pleasant, but personal, memory.
2007-02-04 18:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs help and so do you. If you married each other then it was under the conditions of accepting one another. Your past before each other should not even be a issue in your marriage because you vowed to love each other for better or for worst. She is crazy, maybe she wants you to sleep with someone else because she has been cheating (having sex) with someone else. This could be her way of trying to get over her own guilt (forcing you to go out to sleep with someone because she has). Think about it, why would she feel like a slut just because she had sex before meeting you. How dumb, wake up and smell the coffee, only a fool would believe her! Adultery (sex with someone else while married) is a sin and she isn't worth going to hell over.
2016-05-24 14:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to tell him?
If the reason is that you feel guilty and want to unburden your soul it is probably best not to say anything. It only helps you and not him.
If the reason is that you want him to know that he made the right decision it is probably best not to say anything. He has already made the decision so does not need confirmation.
I cannot see any benefit from telling him and only the possibility that it would end your friendship. Knowing that your best friend had had sex with your wife before you divorced her would not earn you any respect or strengthen your friendship.
2007-02-04 18:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) You don't sleep with a best friend's ex-wife.
2.) Don't bring it up - it will insinuate pride, which could result in getting your a$s beaten with a metal bat. If he confronts you on it, tell him everything and a great element of shame should be in your voice.
3.) Try and help him a new girl, you owe him that at the least as a sort of penance.
2007-02-04 19:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by lucky guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, shame on you. That was another man's wife, together or not, they were still married. Now that the fact is over, I do not think that you should tell him, because then it could look like an act of gloating. You need to sweep it under the rug, & keep this one to yourself. Though they are no longer together, this could still really hurt him.
2007-02-04 18:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U idiot. they weren't divorced yet &u just uped &asked her for casual sex. What type of friend are u? ? ?
If u want ur friendship to be based on honesty, tell him. If u werent close in the first place, whats the use??
U'd need to sort out ur morals first.
2007-02-04 18:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was dating a guy and diodnt know he was married he was cheating on his wife... I didnt know he had a wife... Well i asked if i should tell and everyone aid "NO" I agree there is no point in ruining your friendship with him....
Even though you werent a very good friend for sleeping with her because as his best friend it is kind of a unwritten rule that you dont sleep with Exwifes....Plus they were still married.
2007-02-04 18:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by sammyd734 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with your buddy doesn't need you to point out that you screwed his wife. He may take it hard, and you've lost a buddy. Forget it. Anyway, you would be bringing up something he'd probably like to forget.The most important thing to remember is to leave the past where it is.
2007-02-04 18:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will u feel if he had done the same thing? Do u believe he should tell u? What value does it add to yuor relationship if u do or dont? Ask yourself a few questions to assisst in your decision
2007-02-04 19:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you would be to keep that skeleton in the closet. as long as you werent a factor in their divorce you really shouldnt bring it up unless confronted by your friend. if that is to happen spill the beans and tell him the full story he may or may not forgive you but you will have told the truth.
2007-02-04 18:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋