My girlfriend and I are a great couple. We love eachother very much and have been with each other for quite some time now. She recently told me what my Valentines Day gift from her was going to be (apparently she couldn't wait til the 14th.) She told me that her and her sister are going to get tattoos of each other's significant other's names. For whatever reason, I'm completely disturbed by this, and really don't want her to go through with this. Am I in any way justified in being concerned? It has nothing to do with our current relationship, in fact, our relationship is great and I don't see any reason why we would break up or seperate. But statistics see another side to the story. I just really would be uncomfortable with her getting the tattoo, and its hard to express that to her without her thinking I'm intending to break up, or to make her think that I don't love her enough because I absolutely refuse to ever consider having her or any other girl's name tattooed on me.
2007-02-04 18:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by Hand Banana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should let her just do it.This's something that make her so happy, and perhaps by doing it your relationship'll be better. You can't control what she wants or what you want, on her.Besides, if she really loves it and both of you got into an argument, that'll be far more terrible. By, supporting and allowing her, she'll feel that you are an understanding man.Just don';t make her feel like she's being manipulated by you.
Hope I've helped, good luck.
2007-02-04 18:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right! Coz There is nothing to do by getting tattooed your's on her, all this does'nt literally mean that you or she are so sincere to each other. Luv and relationship can be very well expressed by inner feelings. Valentine Gift may be of anything else, why to take such risky efforts? a single rose or card is more than enough.
2007-02-04 18:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Veena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a little obsessive (AND possessive). Let her get it -- then it will be HER problem if things don't work out between the two of you (remember Angelina & Billie Bob? and Johnny Depp & Winona Ryder?) But watch out . . . she may be asking YOU why HER name is not being tattooed on YOU. It looks like she is going to be looking for some kind of committment. Are you ready for that?
Good luck -- you'll need it!
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2007-02-04 18:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is not should you stop her (though you should), the question is why does she want to do this? Does she want to prove something to you? There's a problem, people don't just decide to go through God awful pain for nothing. Tell her you disaprove of tattoos or something, or that she's more beautiful without it, whatever, but get to the bottom of the problem.
2007-02-04 18:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still too young to get a tattoo, most shops won't touch you until you turn 18. As for your idea get some thing that represent you two as a couple, or of some thing that reminds you of your partner.
2016-03-15 07:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain it to her...tell her how u felt and that u are touched on what she is gonna do...tell her also, what if things didn't go right, with that tattoo it's gonna last forever, unless there is some sort of removal nowadays..not sure abt that. Nobody knows abt the future...talk to her abt it and see what she says. If she is mature enough am sure she won't do such silly things.
2007-02-04 18:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too much ownership being displayed.. this is where the discomfort is coming from...
It is really hard to explain to her too as she could become upset with it.
Tell her flat out NO "not your name"... The two of you have yet to walk into the future together ... and even at that.... marriage does not always last.
You are justified in your feelings.
Good Luck
2007-02-04 18:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by H.O.T. Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her this note. If you really love each other, she should be able to respect your feelings even if she doesn't agree or understand your perspective. .
2007-02-04 18:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few tats, and the only names are of my kids. My kids will "always" be my kids no matter what, and other than that, there is no guarantee that your partner wil always be your partner???
2007-02-04 18:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to let her do it...if she really meant it to show you her love she would have got her tatto and them come and shown it to you .
it looks like she intends to gauge your reaction.
2007-02-04 18:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by sah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋