since you say your grandmother doesn't stay at your place...does she call earlier to say if she's coming over? just let the old lady do whatever she wants.. she'll feel better for it that she's making some curtains for you. you can't do anything about their not getting along though.
let your mom make the curtains too. but tell her that grandmother is already doing it. just to let her know. either she'll let grandmother have your curtains made or she'll do it herself, since you said she already have the material picked out.
so i have an idea. whoever makes the first curtains, that's the one you'll put up first.
and since grandmother is just visiting a few times, you may put up grandmom's a day before she comes to visit. that way, you won't be hurting her feelings over trivial matters such as curtains.
at least you'll have two curtains which you can use interchangeably when the other is at the cleaners.
i know you wouldn't purposely want to hurt either of them so i think this suggestion puts up to it. or you may work something on your own from this idea.
good luck!
2007-02-04 18:35:02
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answered by Anonymous
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You must take charge and let her know that you must make your decisions. Tell her thanks but no thanks. Is there any other task that you can assign to her? Maybe instead of telling her "No" to the curtains, ask if she would help with a different need instead. Some parents and grandparents do not know when to let go. As a grandma, I want to have honest with my grandchildren so nobody feelings get hurt. She loves you and wants to be a big part of your life. Ya gotta love her for her love for you. Good luck
2007-02-04 18:46:45
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answered by grannywinkie 6
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Don't be too hard on Grandma ... she only wants to feel needed, that there is still purpose in her life.
Just tell her your curtains have been taken care of ... but, you could really use some help to make a set of curtains for another room. Maybe also ask her for a recipe or two, and some advice on another matter. That way ... she'll feel that she really is needed. She'll be excited that she's got a few things to do. :)
2007-02-04 18:35:44
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answered by ♥Carol♥ 7
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Give her another task. Tell her, "You know grandma, mom's got the curtains, but I really need an apron and ... you know mom, she'll do it up too frilly... can you make that instead?" She just wants to contribute and not be forgotten.
2007-02-04 18:27:30
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answered by fair_gwenofair 2
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Well unfortunately, you're just gonna have to tell her no you're not coming over and mom's making the curtains. Tell her you already have the material. etc..... Too bad your gma has to get all huffy and puffy. :( n
2007-02-04 18:29:04
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answered by Nikki 7
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Ask her for something different which requires more efforts/time in that way she will have to forego the curtains
2007-02-04 18:33:09
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answered by smart_eluh 4
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FIND something else 4 her to do. TELL her you have that covered but could you make matching pillows and arm rest covers to match? THAt would be so cool grandma. MY house would look like a movie stars house.
2007-02-04 18:27:55
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answered by Anonymous
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say "grandma, could ou listen for a secon? mom already had the material picked out, but you could help me with making (make up something like a blanket or throw pillows)."
2007-02-04 18:27:06
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answered by Tizmo 2
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She sounds like someone who has to have her own way and then blames someone else when she doesnt. Its a manipulation and she knows exactly what she is doing. She did hear what you said but she enjoys causing others distress. It sounds to me like she doesnt like your mother and this is how she gets at her. Shes a bully. You can view her as some little old lady if you want but she knows exactly what shes doing.
2007-02-04 19:24:06
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answered by Dovahkiin 7
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push her down the stairs
2007-02-04 18:25:45
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answered by Anonymous
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