i need some advice with my 5 year old daughter..?

Question

i have been out working for the last few months and i hired a babysitter for my daughter. the babysitter is male. i somewhat have a feeling that she have been sexually abused by the babysitter. my husband is a FBI spcial agent. should i talk about this with my husband or should i talk to the babysitter?

Answer 1

Trust your instincts! Do not let that babysitter around your child again. Of course you need to tell your husband, and I am sure he will lose his mind, as I would if I thought someone was harming my child. I don't care if you have no evidence, your have your instincts and even if nothing has happened, you are not comfortable with this person (the babysitter). You need not give him a reason. Just tell him it isn't working out for you. Have you done a background check on this person? You should talk to your child but it will be difficult. Perhaps a counselor would help. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Never hire a male to babysit your daughter! Only hire a qualified woman to watch your daughter. Trust your mothers instinct and tell your husband now! Maybe he can set something up to secretly view what is really happening when you're not there. Untill you are certain that nothing is happening then don't leave her in his care. Try to set up something where you can actually be near by and viewing all activities live. That way if you do see something that resembles abuse you can immediately stop it and take legal actions against the sicko. If you are close with your neighbors they can possibly even help you. You can go purchase a wireless security system and set up the cameras secretly around the house and have the reciever at your neighbors house and watch everything from there while he thinks you are actually at work. If not that then there is a system called Cyclone can also install and configure a camera system for your home, from a single camera showing guests entering your driveway to multiple cameras throughout the house that can be viewed on a split screen. Images can be recorded onto tape or saved onto a computer and can even be viewed over the internet from remote locations. There are other systems like this one and some are even better. You just have to see whats available for your area. This may all seem like a hassle but it would actually relieve alot of stress wondering whats happening to your daughter while your not around. You also need to speak with your daughter. Maybe she will tell you but rtemember alot of times kids don't tell because they are afraid that they will get in trouble. Make sure you talk this all over with your husband first and then you both can decide how to handle this situation. You and your daughter are in my prayers and let's hope it's all just a case of you being paranoid for no reason. You could always be just feeling guilty because you are back at work now. Either way don't just ignore this. Check it out. Take good care and best of luck to you.
Sincerly,
"another mother"

Answer 3

I Agree Talk to your Husband! because if you talk to the babysitter he'll know that you caught onto him and he'll deny everything then he'll leave and won't come back and he'll get away with it and you'll never catch him if your husband is an FBI agent then tell him tell him tell him!!!!! the camera's would be good but i wouldn't suggest putting them up just so you can wait and see if its happening cause if it is and he touches her again then that will be another mental scar your little girl had to endure! so fire him! like people say on here a mothers instinct is usually right and i agree so very much with that so even if it didn't happen fire him anyway because you can never trust a strange man around your children ever! the world is too corrupt now days and no one can truly be fully trusted especially with your children's lives! sometimes not even your own family!
but you say your husband is an FBI agent so you guys should be safe overall he can bust that perverts *** and throw him in prison so he'll never get out if that babysitter has done anything to your little girl!

Answer 4

I think this story is implausible.

Plot Hole: No one would ever hire a male baby sitter for a girl.

Plot Hole: If you had a feeling she was abused you'd fire the babysitter immediately.

Plot Hole: No one would ever keep such a suspicion from their husband.

Plot Hole: If you're husband is an FBI agent, then he'd probably know what to do and exactly who to contact in this situation better than anyone on Yahoo Answers.

From your other questions, you also have an 8, 10, and 13 year old daughters, play Hitman 2, and don't understand how boys can be virgins.

Answer 5

are you for real? you would actually hire a male sitter for a kid (boy or girl) Most guys would not be into sitting you know. And guys that are pedophiles want to be around kids...
You need to talk with hubby, get daughter checked, and never have this guy watch you prescious baby again... or from here on out you are an accomplice... really.
Check with police- sting him and get it on film and stop it before anything more happens... This going on is more common than you think. Quit your job- your daughter is your job-even if it means living a little below what you both desire--- and if you really want to work, do something out of the home so you can be around when your kids are home from school. Do the right thing.
If this is really going on as you suspect, you not only have an obligation to your baby but all little kids, who are someone elses precious little ones.

Answer 6

First thing you do is a background check on the guy. You can do that through your local police. Second, ask your daughter. Then go from there. But if you have ANY gut feelings about this, get rid of the babysitter then you can always file charges afterwards if you find out the he DID do something.

Answer 7

if you have any suspicion that your daughter has been sexually abused you should have your family and the babysitter sit down and talk... watch his reaction to the question and you will have your answer. if there is a suspicion i would also find a new babysitter A.S.A.P. do you have the option of grandarents or an aunty or uncle to take care of her even a trusted close friend of the family..and where did you find your babysitter cause i dont want to look in the same place you did.

Answer 8

first talk to your daughter about it..you dont want to talk to her too much about it b/c at that age they will see that they have your attention and start to make up a story..i also suggest talkin to your husband about it and say that your not a 100% sure and want to put up little hidden cameras in pretty much all the rooms and have it get sent to your computer with a lock on it..im sure your husband would know what to do..and also if he is fbi he shoould be able to do a back groun check on the babysitter..and next time i reccomend doing some research of a babysitter b4 you hire them..like refrences and a through background check to make sure your baby will be in a safe and harm free enviroment!

Answer 9

Both. But the best thing is to hire a different babysitter and be frank with the one you have. Tell him that for whatever reason, this kind of suspicion haunts you now and you don't think you will be able to get rid of it as long as you have a babysitter of the opposite sex. Refuse to be politically correct - go with your gut instinct.

Answer 10

Talk with your husband. Stop the babysitter, because IF he is hurting your child in anyway it will scare her for the rest of her life. Put cameras in your home too for any babysitters you have. To protect your child. Good luck and Hopefully there is nothing going on