I have a 22month old boy and he is so calm most days, but when we visit family that has a 2and a half year old that likes to beat up on my son. He starts to mimic his cousins actions. I don't like spanking and want some new ideas of taking care of these problems without hitting my child.
2007-02-04 18:13:39 · 5 answers · asked by mommyoftwo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Just tell your kid firmly that he is a good boy, but hitting is bad and you don't allow it.
If he does not listen, put him in his room for 2 minutes (1 minute per year of age).
Repeat these steps as many times as needed.
In most cases, you will not be able to avoid negative role models for your son -- at day care, preschool, play group, etc.
However, in this case, the negative role model is a cousin, and you can do something about it.
Talk with the kid's parents BEFORE your next visit and ask them to please make sure that their son does not hit your son, because your son was very affected by it last time (he was upset, scared, started doing the same).
If the boy's parents get mad at you for saying this, it is their problem. They really SHOULD discipline their son!!!! If they react negatively, you might consider seeing them less often.
2007-02-04 18:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 22 months is not too young to start to talk to them about bad and good behaviour. When they start to act up like this remove them from the situation and explain to them why you dislike what they are doing and why. Be calm and just tell them how how you would rather them act. At almost two they at a age where they are forming habits for the rest of their lives and learning how to act and react. Lead by your own actions and communication. I also would speak the other childs parents and recommend they do the same. Not only is this 2 and half year old teaching bad habits, they could also hurt your son! Good Luck!
2007-02-05 03:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the talking thing is out.. he doesn't get it, and spanking should be reserved for a time when it is really necessary. ( I believe that a spank,not a beating, has its place)
This works like a charm..
get a cup with about 3 fingers of water in it, and toss it in his face.. I know it sounds terrible, but it works, and it wont hurt him.
Also, don't take him to the naughty cousins anymore.. Not till the cousin can stop acting like a bully.. maybe he should get the water shock! This works good for tantrums too.
Remember he wants a reaction from you.. dont give in..
2007-02-05 02:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Zelda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he is mimicking the other family member. Kids often imitate what they see. They don't realize it's wrong. Best advise I can offer is to not visit his cousin or put him in day care a few days a week so he become accustomed to what other kids do!
2007-02-05 06:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like hes an attention seeker.next time you go to the family members home and he has a hissy fit.pick the child up.with out looking or talkng to him and put him out in the hall way.teach him time out.at 22 months hes starting the phase of the terrible 2's so you have to start to nip it in the bud so to speak.dont show stress or anger.ignore him and move him from the other child.
2007-02-05 04:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋