What are appropriate ways for my 6 yr old dtr to physially vent her anger. Lately, she's been throwing things

Answer 1

id say you enroll her in a taekwondo class or any martail arts class where she can make use of her anger during training sessions. however this may be an extra expense for your family. a less costly way is to tell her that she can shout out loud to get her anger out instead of throwing important stuff in the house. basically, just tell her that you cant affor her throwing all these things and she should just express her anger diplomatically if possible.

Answer 2

The newest research on anger shows that "venting" just causes more anger (for example, a punching bag, or punching a pillow). I would recommend a few sessions with a child counselor to allow her to work on her anger.

If her anger is caused by predictable situations, it would be proactive to plan with her on ways to skip the anger. With my daughter at that age, when we'd leave for a trip I'd say, "Plan on this. The park will be closed. We'll get a flat tire. It's going to rain." She would look at me and smile. Then, every good thing was a happy experience.

A good article on anger is below.

Answer 3

Ok - everyone has already told you to have your dtr hit pillows, etc. to get rid of her anger. That will help her for the first couple seconds. After she calms down a bit, suggest a "big motor" exercise to help her drain the rest of her energy. This can be taking a walk (either with an adult or just herself within sight of the house - my kids would walk the dog up and down the driveway and in front of the house by themselves at that age), riding a bike, big wheel, etc., jumping on a tramp., etc.

Later, after she is completely calmed down, suggest that she use art or even writing (if she is at that stage) to capture her feelings about the day's events. Soon, she will no longer need to hit pillows, etc., she will learn to cool down just by redirecting herself with other "big motor" activities, art and journal writing.

Answer 4

I had a simular situation with my son although it started when he was 3 years old he would kick, hit, bite and throw things, he was much too young to be able to verbalize his feelings, so i would tell him NO! and take him to my room (no toys) and make him stay there ."I would say to him it is NOT OKAY!! to act like this because he was angry. "Everyone gets angry and it's not okay to act this way". I would repeat this every time he would throw a fit. I assured him it's okay to get mad, everyone does but you could not act this way. I also would say when he felt angry to let us know he was angry we would acknowledge his feelings and this way we could help him resolve his problem, in this way giving him some way to have control of the situation. Giving him some power, a way to express his feelings in a positive way You do realize something is bothering your child, this is why she is acting out. When my son was 5 it all made sense he was able to tell me what provoked the previous behavior, His father's girlfriend at the time would tell him terrible lies about me.For this little boy to go through this it is just something that never should have happened it was way too much for him to deal with.You know he told me that "he was able to see it was all lies" because the things she said, he could see for himself weren't happening. What I want you to see is that sometimes children are carrying around hurtful feelings they can't share because they aren't yet capable even some adults can't do this. Just please be patient and ask about school ,friends just feelings in general be specific encourage her to be specific. I think once you uncover the reason for her behavior you won't have to find ways for her to physically vent her frustrations. Good luck!!

Answer 5

I dont think there is an appropriate way because six year olds can be immature. But just try to talk to her and calm her down just dont let her manipulate you. You could always put her in a boxing or karate class...or some kind of sport.

Answer 6

Having resently taken a class on being pro-active with children, I'd like to share a few suggestions that have worked for my son and I.
Being pro-active would be to know our child well enough that we do not put them in potentially frusterating situations.
As I tried this, I realized there were many changes I needed to make.
One was to always warn my boy 5 minutes before expecting him to actually do something. I used this for every thing. Getting up in the morning, I'd wake him up and set the timer for 5 more snooz minutes. There was a 5 min. warning for brkfst, getting ready for the day, leaving for school, ..... you get the picture. Doing this helped him to know what to expect, and what is expected of him.
The other thing I had to change was WHAT I expected from him.
My first child loved doing anything I asked and understood clearly how to do it. She also did it very well. My boy however, has a difficult time staying on task and following direction. He would get very frusterated when it took him (what he considered) a long time and too hard to do. I now give him easyer respossilities and shorter directions. Such as I'll say .... " after you are dressed for school come to me". Rather than saying.... after you are done with getting dressed , make your bed and then get your lunch ticket.
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I did speak to him about understanding the feeling he first starts feeling when he is getting upset. In his case it was his fingers feeling tight. I explained to him how he had the power to change that feeling. I asked him to shake his hands when he first started to feel his fingers tightening.
If I saw the frusteration start in him before he recognized it, I would call him over to me and ask him to shake his hands with me.
I learned that children need to hear from us as parents that it is natural to be frusterated and angry. That we, even as adults feel this way from time to time.
What is most important is to recognize the feeling coming over us and how we can control it without hurting someone or braking something.
Hope you find this helpful. Neenu

Answer 7

It's really a good thing that your daughter can vent her feeling. You just have to help her channel her anger. There are great punching toys that bob or you could give her a "punching pillow" that she can hit, throw or scream into. My daughter really responded to having her pillow.

good luck!

Answer 8

you not only want to find good ways for her to vent but you also need to find out why she is so angry here are a few things to try hope they help

hit pillows
get a punching bad or make her one out of a pillow case and a blanket
have her talk though her anger to you or her stuffed toys
does she have a lil brother ( just kidding)
links below

Answer 9

you need to let her know that this is not appropriate to begin with. Give her time out in a place that has nothing. Then you need to know why she has suddenly become angry. Why not enrol her in karate. this will teach her patience and respect and help her learn to control herself

Answer 10

Get her to beat up a pillow. Teach her that when she is mad, she can go in her room and punch the pillow until she feels better.