I went out with this coworker (we share hours maybe once a week on weekends) once, and we talked for a few weeks. Then we kinda just stopped calling eachother 2 weeks ago. I was cool at first, but now I feel terrible about not calling her because I got the impression from looking at her at work, and from another coworker, that she was upset at me. I feel like a total jerk, and want to make things right with her if she's upset . I tried to talk to her at work on saturday and I couldn't get a word out. I was too nervous and felt too bad about the situation. Her phone won't take messages (they bounce back) because it's broken, and I can't speak to her (too nervous, i'm very very shy).
I want to write a letter to her explaining how I feel, and that I want to appologise to her, but how do I write such a letter? Is it a good idea to write a letter?
Thank you for your help, it is greatly appriciated.
2007-02-04 17:55:21 · 6 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what should i write? should i put the stuff i put in my question?
2007-02-04 17:56:13 · update #1
hi i am lorna ,ok try to talk to her just think she is an ordinary person if you cannot do that write a letter.
2007-02-04 18:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't....she'll prolly laugh at it because it might be nothing serious.... first of all that is such a high school technique to write a ltter...be an adult and mature...if you really want her to know you're sincere and not just a young boy hiding in the dark corner thinking if she ever reads your letter then here is what you do:)....
if you ever see her greet her because if you don't then it might create tension between the both of you...so for an ice breaker just greet her...and then just tell her your concern in a casual way...for instance say
*GREET*......"Hey how are you doing"
after she responds "im fine"
this is what you say : "listen...i'm feeling a little concern...i've been hearing from people that i've upset and if i ever did im sorry i know you might see me as a jerk but i honestly never did anything intentional..i have no clue of what really is going on...and if there is nothing really serious going on sorry for me bringing this up to you and now i feel like a loser" (last line is humorous....girls like it because its charming and they think its cute)
2007-02-05 02:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by badluck13b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to write a letter but you need to be carefull and think before you write it down. Woman is a very sensitive creature. A few Compliments wouldn't hurt ya! Good luck...
2007-02-05 02:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by DWaterIce 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her flowers at work, and have them delivered.
Have the note say, I like you and i'm so shy!
she will think that's so cute, and let her talk!
OR bring a nice necklace of plumera or island flowers that you made or buy one, and attatch a note, I care about you, i'm sorry i'm so shy...can we go out?
or write the letter, and don't ask questions.
tell her what you like about her,
what places you would like to take her to, like to dinner, or watch the sunset on the beach, or for a walk on the beach.
tell her that you really like her, but are very shy, and don't know what to do. And that you would like to go out with her, and if she would like that too, then to come give you a hug!!!
Honestly,
Write a letter saying, I really like you,,
I know we work together, and I may not talk much,
this is new to me, and you make me feel like I'd like to get to know you better.
let me know if you would like to go out to dinner or movie.
please tell me if you do not want me to persue you, so I can stop this fantasy life with you in it!!
good luck, just write and see how it sounds.
make it short, in a blank card.
or send her flowers. with a simple note......I really like you! smile if you feel the same!!
2007-02-05 02:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT write a letter!!! Im sure this wont happne, but in the rare event she IS mad at you and decides to go to HR with a sexual harassment complaint, a written letter is evidence to be used against you. I think u should really approach her outside of work if possible, if not on a break when no one is around and say i didnt know if you want to keep in touch im sorry i have not called im not sure what it is u want and im scared too. please call me tonite if you want to. and leave it be. if she calls great, if not move on.
2007-02-05 02:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes tell her stuff from ur question and make it clear how u feel and yes write her a letter... that is sorta sweet =] good luck!
2007-02-05 02:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by becstar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋