i have a very broken heart?

Question

i just had my heart shattered in a million pieces...and i feel like i am not allowed to be sad because i am the type of person that everyone expects to just muscle through things like this. I guess I dont really have a question...just looking for some support froma community that has no expectations for me. I think I also just wanted to broadcast how horrible I feel somewhere since I can't do it in real life. Any thoughts on what else I can do to stop feeling so horrible on the inside and pretending to be ok on the out.

the situation is made worse because i am in grad school in a city where i don't really have a support network, and all the people that i am allowed to show weakness to, and that support me are far away. i just feel so sad.

he left me. it hurts me.

not my first love, but was supposed to be my last. im 26. i cant see myself laughing at this anytime soon

Answer 1

frirst real love? lol its alright because in a long run you would laugh at the situtation....you're all muscle but you're also human tooo...you're not perfect and i think opening up to this kinds of things...people will understand and like you for your sensitivity..... look you can't really deal with a broken heart...except cry a lot and don't hold it in for too long...just cry it out and have some lone time with yourself at the beach or somewhere just to free your conscience... only time will heal this factor until you you are ready to move on.....just dont beat up yourself about it...if you think people are not gonna understand...like i said...spend some alone time with yourself away from your place and community....

Answer 2

Of course matters of the heart hurt when they don't turn out the way we had hoped. If you didn't feel some level of pain then maybe your concerns shouldn't be on portraying a false happy face but instead whether or not you have a sole. If your friends think that you should be able to come away from this quickly and completely unscaled then in my opinion they're being selfish by not being sensitive to your needs and have some serious reality issues. It's just human nature to hurt more when we get dumped. Even if you both had decided to call it quits the one receiving those words will generally hurt more than the one saying them because it bruises our ego. Now this pain can be confused with the actual pain you feel from your lose of this person. Suggestion- Try focusing less on the positive things that you think you miss and focus MUCH more on the negative in your relationship including his faults. This is just to help you put your feelings back in the right perspective. I found this to be very successful with numerous people. I hope it will help you. Keeping good thoughts for you!!! DooMee2x

Answer 3

Of course you are allowed to be sad, babe. Everyone has weak spots. Go to a really good friend just cry. Sometimes the only way to get out feelings is to cry them out- I know I'm like that. Some people laugh them out. Go out to a club or a bar with friends- celebrate, babe! You're single! Think about how much better for you are without him.

Whatever focus was on him- give the spotlight to something else. A friend you were neglecting, or maybe a new activity.

Good Luck. Just remember that guys are assholes, and when the right one comes along, it will be worth it. =)

Answer 4

Do you mean to say that you have been ditched by a girl or simply had your heart shattered just like that.I was just wondering what could be the reason behind such horrible pain. If the reason is girl, then why do you feel such fellings. After all one amy go thousand may come. This kind of feeling is just temporary and you just need not to worry about such things in your life. Who said that you are not suppose feel this kind of emotion. After all you are a human being with all kinds of feeling.
And if you are just heart broken just like that, this means you should go to hospital and seek help.Sometimes it's a work of our hormones to make us feel like this . Be a brave. nothing gonna make you sick.

Answer 5

About two years ago I was in the same situation, my heart got shattered into billion pieces and I still have not fully recovered. I am only 21 attending college and I as well had no one to help me cope through this pain that I never experienced in my life. I am still recovering b/c I have no one to talk to about this... it's all built up inside. Time heals, but not totally. It's been two years and I still break down time to time. You need to find someone to lean on and talk to for a while let it all out or else, it'll be built up for years or unless you find a rebound that works for you. Good Luck! I know how your feeling, I wish I never gotten with her, I knew from the start I was weaker,when she was around I let my guard down and totally gave in. No matter how much you like/love someone NEVER let your guard down, I learned my lesson. Theres always a limit to everything. It'll pass man, she isn't worth it, well atleast that's what I keep telling myself. Good luck man!

Answer 6

The end of a relationship can be one of the most tramatic experiences to go through, especially when it blindsides you, don't feel as though you have to pretend you are not hurt, do you not have a best friend that you can talk to about it, because a best friend should be there for support and allow you to be yourself.

Answer 7

im sorry ='[ my heart is broken into a million pieces as well. my first love left me last sunday.. things were fine between us and he tells me everything is over. im 19. a sophmore in college. i also dont have many friends either.. he was my best friend and only friend.. i havent cried abotu him for a few days but not its starting to get to me. im really starting to miss him alot. we were eachother first bf/gf, first love, first everything. i wanted to marry him. we dated for over 2 years hung out for 7 hours a dayd nad tlked on the phone alot. i thought we would have a future together. but now everything is gone ='[ i hear the first love is the worst heart break there is. i feel horrible on the inside as well. all i want to do is cry all the time. i never feel liek doing anyting anymore. it hurts so much. you can email me if you want to ttalk about it. maybe we can help eachother through with it and forget about these boys and move on with life! there will be anpther one for you! dont worry! cheer up! but email me when you want!

Answer 8

Time will heal buddy. It will take some time especially since u dun have support ard u. Keep posting your question, am sure there're lotsa nice fellas out there that feels you. Else, go get some friends if you can that is.

Answer 9

i know how u feel. im sooooo srry u dont have the ppl u need the most. and i know it hurts cuz im goin through the same thing right now but my friends r there 4 me. if u need 2 talk im here.

Answer 10

honey, you dont have to put on a brave face if you dont want to my advise have a good LONG cry then get your friends go shopping with them & treat yourself.(a little retail therapy never hurt anyone) go back to one of their houses and watch a bunch of sad movies. i believe you can pull through this,do you?...