Wierd situation girls...please help me?

Question

This girl that used to really like me has gotten really wierd on me, and i would like to find out why. We use to go out to lunches heaps, movies, and also dinner once, she used to always like to play with my stuff, and we used to laught all the time. She now seems annoyed at me, dont know why???.......i asked her once, and she said everythings ok, and stop being like that, and why do i ask such questions....im making a heap of effort now, and she kind of just replies to what i say, or else just kind of ignors me altogether as if she didnt recieve anything???......she invites me to movies with my mate though, and once i declined...and she was like "fine then!"....whats these games?im sick of them now, and dont know what to do....ive being making all the effort, so im now going to wait for her to speak to me first!

Answer 1

She might of only realized now that she might have feelings for u, therefor distancing herself so that u don't feel weird-LOL

I think its a good idea to step back &wait. but dont be angry about it. She'll then come to u.

Answer 2

As you have expressed yourself, and those who have answered herein, this is a subject of great concern for probably 98-99% of the people. But let me offered some other things to consider. First, they Are adults. Second, it is consensual. Third, consider the total unset and damage it could cause for the siblings, the parents, the rest of the extended family that will most likely find out. It could totally destroy the entire family dynamics forever. Consider you actions carefully! This is NOT something that you should convey to the parents without due consideration of all repercussions. IF they were teenagers, then I would have a different viewpoint. There is a concern about the potential child. If she is pregnant, then after it is born, tests most definitely need to be run to determine the father definitively. Primarily for the purpose of the child eventually is going to have to know who its parents are - and he/she should be 'know' who mother/father IS from an early age - so that at least it will have a sense of 'belonging' to a mother/father. Of course, the baby will not, should not be made aware of the unusual situation of his/her conception until Much later in his development - early teen years (approximate). The important thing is the the child is LOVED by those around him/her - the mixed feelings of the family ARE secondary to the child's well-being. He had not say or fault in his/her conception. The child's feelings of love and security should come before Everything else! Also, the 'concern' over the hereditary 'potential' problems are Way over blown. Yes, there is the greater 'possibility' that the child could inherit some medical problems that maybe it wouldn't otherwise. But you are talking about percentage risks of this happening being in the areas of 1 to 3 percent additional risk over the normal risks. Do some research on the internet - you will find this to be true. Now, further comment on the circumstances that you discovered. YOU need to sit down with the brother and sister and discuss the items that I have mentioned above. 1) IF she is PG by the brother - They are going to Have to Deal with all the problems that will have to come from it, and to deal with it in an honest, straight forward manner. Including Telling the sister's doctor that will take care of her during the pregnancy, so that he can properly deal with any special concerns and tests. 2) The siblings will have to bring it out in the open IF there is going to be a child involved. If it turns out that a child between the brother/sister is not a fact, then the 'notification' and Whether it should be made to the parents IS a different question. Again - think of the Total family and what Damage it is going to do to the whole family dynamics!!! IS it worth the pain that will occur if they are told? This should Not be an automatic decision that you have a right to make. They are adults, they have obviously have chosen to make some very unorthodox decisions, which could do a lot of damage. THEY have the right to handle the communication of any secrets themselves! It is Not your 'right' or obligation to do so. You Can sit down with them prior to the parents returning and discuss with them how They are going to handle it - especially if there is going to be a child from the relationship. YOU can 'cause' far more damage by taking the issue and 'handling' it Your way. Other than talking to them and having a frank discussion, that is all your should do. You Can stress your opinions and offer suggestions, but after that, you should step back out of it. I have been involved in some rather 'complex' Family issues in the past - not This, but some things as complicated and potentially damaging as this. I found that if it is handled wrong, far more damage than what was necessary can be done. And, no it had nothing to do with family incest or abuse by a father of a daughter. Just please take my word for it, this should be handled very carefully, for the sake of the entire family. Please, please heed what I say. I hope I have offered another, important way of looking at this.

Answer 3

If shes gonna act all like that,dont bother with her... If you really wanna tick her off, start talking to other girls in front of her..Well umm.. it could be that time of the month for her or maybe shes been acting like that to everyone cause of stuff that happens at home..Sometimes home life and effect a persons personality.. especially if their depressed about something (parents fighting ect.) Just stop falling for her games overall and move on.. If she is a good friend, she will approach you and act normally as she once did..

Answer 4

Tough question. But you should seriously think about trying to talk to her in person again and don't let her shrug it off as nothing. Make her understand why your worried and try to get an answer out of her. Remeber, there are times when a girl says she's ok, and she's really not.

Answer 5

If i were you i would just leave it and wait for her to talk to you, but you can still take other woman to movies etc. Maybe she has feelings for you, but dont know what to do about it, maby she thinks you have feelings for her that she doesn't like.

Answer 6

One suggestion do something wonderful for her, outstanding, take her out, somethinf really speacil. If after thet she's till the same. Roll out, don't waste your good ness one someone un worthy, good luck

Answer 7

Maybe because you never reciprocated she's getting annoyed and frustrated.

Answer 8

She no longer likes you.