In the last 2 weeks me and a boy on my rowing team (I'm the female coxswain) He is the best rower and technecally we are allowed to but shouldn't date the teammates for drama reasons.
He had always been my best friend until 2 weeks ago when we kissed, talked, then fell asleep together. Then he didn't bring it up and I assumed it was a one time thing.
Then thus night I got back from going out and the same thing happened. I kept saying I hope your not using me, and I feel so comfortable with him cause he has been like a brother the last year
He left college and went home for the weekend, we talked on aim about everyday stuff, he came back and hasn't imed me or came to see me. I just found out he has 3 girls coming to see him this weekend.
I am usually not so spazie about guys or needy but it's just like I really like him and trust him and if this dosn't work I am going to feel so used.
What should I Do?
Is he using me?
2007-02-04 17:42:40 · 3 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(I don't want to IM him or see him cause I don't want him to think i'm like needy or pressuring him into anything...I just can't think straight though and I have other things to be worrying about, like school and the team in general)
Oh yeah no one on the team knows so this whole things is a secret...
Also we buy each other crush cans at this university... they sell them in the next 4 days... do I get him one?
2007-02-04 17:43:44 · update #1
Countrybuggyben is right.
3 girls on the weekend - like, no guys, just 3 girls? Weird. Unless he's having a foursome, i don't know how he's suppose to isolate a single girl for anything intimate. I don't get what he's trying to accomplish.
Don't get him a crush can. You don't know how he feels about you, so you don't want to get him anything that makes you an open option to him -- you'll get hurt and you don't want to screw up your rowing team relationship. Pick up the phone and call him. If you two are best friends, it shouldn't be a big deal for you to meet up for a cup of coffee or something (do some studying together, talk rowing, volunteer work, etc.). Bring up when you kissed 2 weeks ago and ask him that you earnestly want to know if he thinks you're a good kisser. This question will give you insight as to what his thoughts are on you without open exposing you in the case that he isn't romantically interested in you. If your getting positive feedback, half-jokingly say something to the effect of: 'well i thought i'd ask the expert since it seems like you've been around a lot of girls lately'. See how he reacts to this. If he is like 'haha, yes i'm quite the ladies man' he's not interested in a relationship. If he sheepishly replies 'i wish!' or something like that, he may be interested. This 2nd question will really open the door for him to indicate his interest if he's truly interested.
2007-02-04 18:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by lucky guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kissed talked then fell asleep together?
No you're not being used you're obviously just good friends.
If he was using you there would have been sex.
It's nice when guys and girls can just be friends with each other without sex getting in the way.
If you want him for yourself, though, you better let him know rather than just getting jealous over all the other girls he's seeing.
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