how can i become confident? a lot of good answers please!?

Question

im usually shy around popular kids and hot girls. i get so nervous in class and i almost never speak up. girls find me attracting but i never get with them. please help people.

Answer 1

First off you need to act. Look at the people around you. Look at how calm they are in situations you would freak out in. And act like that. Imagine you are doing what ever it is you wish you could do, that your lack of confidence is getting in the way of.

But believe it is actually happening. When its actually happening take control of your thoughts and act. Like a shy actor taking the role of an out going character. The best time to imagine this is as often as possible, right before you go to bed and especially when your listing to music.

The other thing is DO NOT think. Your hole life you have been told think before you do. Well when it comes to this, don’t. Just do it. Like a robot, do it and don’t think about it.

The last thing is to visualize. When you breath in imagine the air going into your lungs and being sucked into your blood when it goes threw your body its pushing out pain, negative thoughts and weakness. Imagine it getting replaced by good thoughts, power, and a can do anything sense of thought not to mention confidants.

There is an old saying that goes, be careful of your thoughts, they may become your actions, be carful of your actions they become your character, be carful of your character it might become you.

Imagine yourself with no confidence an weak you will have no confidence and you will be weak, Imagine yourself confident and mentally strong and you will be. Life is all about changing and evolving, over coming and gaining wisdom. So do what needs to be done to live your life.

Good luck I hope this helps
p.s. it takes time, but be patient with it. You might find this technique only works for short periods of time, but as time goes on it will become who your are. That is if you use the these techniques more and more often.

Answer 2

Do you hang out with any friends? Go to places where you can be with people that have the same likes as you. That is a good start for you to strike up a conversation. If you are too shy to start up a conversation maybe they will with you. There is no time like the the present, you must take the bull by the horns as they say and step out onto the ledge and start making conversations with people. If you are a decent looking person you just need to have more trust in yourself.

Answer 3

fake it. stand tall, keep constant eye contact, and smile when you talk. and dont stammer. just think exactly what your going to say before you say it and think 'is it appropiate or stupid?' after a while you will feel more confident.