i love my boyfriend very much and one day i will plan to marry him but he is in the navy and is always gone. if i have sex with someone else why he is gone and me and the other guy know its not going to be anything else but sex, is that cheating? am i betraying the relationship?
2007-02-04 17:16:23 · 28 answers · asked by miss gen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it IS cheating. I consider it cheating even if you are having an emotional relationship with someone else than your partner.
I think it's bad enough that you're even contemplating doing the deed. I don't think you really DO love your beau. You are only thinking of your sexual needs and not taking your boyfriend's feelings into consideration.
2007-02-04 17:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by chocolatecupcake 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well duh! of course it is. and cheating is never ok under any circumstances. why do you do this to yourself? if you really cared about your man, and you do this,you wouldnt be able to live with the guilt and you would tell him, and then he would leave you, because he was over there fighting and you couldnt wait for him. then you have nothing but a messed up good opportunity at happiness that you threw away because you were being a hornball and couldnt keep your pants or skirt on. honestly i would never hurt someone i love like that. not even if i was in pain because of sexual need. id rather buy a vibrator and think about him, until he comes back. if you decide that you need to have some anyway, i hope you at least take a break from the relationship and do what you have to do, and then when he comes back and you want to re-start the relationship, you'll explain to him that you broke up with him cause you just needed to have sex. sounds very selfish any way you look at it. why dont you do the guy a favor and just let him go, because if its so easy to think about cheating cus he's not there (for a good reason) you'll be thinking about cheating on him a few years down the line when he's "not there" cus he went out for milk. i hope you do the right thing.
2007-02-04 17:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did research and did my minor thesis on infidelity. Ultimately infidelity comes down to what your partner would consider to be unfaithful. If he would get upset about you holding hands with another guy, and you know that and still went ahead with it, that's then cheating. Different people have different levels of what is and is not acceptable, but I think that sex (emotional or not) for most people is definitely in the unacceptable category.
I think that the ultimate issue is about trust and breaking someone's trust. Are you willing to gamble your loving relationship for a sleazy one night stand? And how could you do it knowing that you will have to lie to your boyfriend and hide it from him for the rest of your life.
I really don't think it's worth it.
2007-02-04 18:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHEATING CHEATING CHEATING
What if he had sex while he was away would you consider that as betraying you?
If you consider being intimate with someone else as just plain sex and not love, you might want to consider prostitution as a career
2007-02-04 17:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is definitly cheating!!!! that is betraying the relationship that you have with your boyfriend. Imagine you telling him that you slept with someone while he was away in the navy. Or him coming back saying that he was gay and slept with one of his mates. You need to talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you need sex on a regular basis and him being away from you isnt fulfilling your needs. or you can just wait til he comes home and have sex like two dogs in the park.
2007-02-04 17:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sexxi~Hot~Mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how would you feel if you found out that when he was gone he thought about this and did it. wouldnt you feel betrayed. try some phone sex, go buy a vibrator, dont cheat i have been cheated on and its the most painfull thing i have ever felt. and it will ruin your relationship forever, that will always be in the back of his head.
2007-02-04 17:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are. why would that not be cheating? you are having sex with someone else that is not the person you say you are going to marry. would it be okay if he had sex with someone else while he was at port in some other country?
2007-02-04 17:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually it is cheating, but as you say, he is in the navy and gone from you a long time, and perhaps he has had sex in some other country before. but i will not judge you or him. you both have needs and both are human. if you use discretion,MAYBE things will be different,buttttttt.. who to trust ?? even if you say it means nothing, you must be discrete if you need to have sex. i know it is very hard to be apart especially when you need affection,comfort,and a loving hug,and some one to talk to each day. wongfiehung2003@yahoo.com
2007-02-04 17:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its cheating but I'd do it. He knows your gonna do it, just in denial. But if you ever tell him or he ever finds out, he is gonna make you pay. something bout being gone with the military that puts a chip on your shoulder. Make sure its a good secret and dont get preggers.
2007-02-04 17:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by bradnick2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid girl. Yes, you would be a liar and a cheat and I believe Karma will come your way sooner or later. Break up with your squid, and date other guys. If he is not there for you, and you are not there for him, there is no relationship. Dump him. He doesn't deserve to be treated like that.
2007-02-04 17:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋