I have this overwhelming fear of losing my virginity, I have no idea why but the thought of it sends me in to an identity panic, I fear I will no longer really be me, no longer have controll, be too much in the power of someone else...and on and on and on. My parents were always open and honest with me and I am not frightened from a religious standpoint... This bizarre phobia is beggining to overtake my life and ruin my relationships - for example, I broke up with this guy I had dated for two years, that I actually loved because I felt that sex was going to loom on the horizon. Seriously how can I get over this?
2007-02-04 17:11:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was a little attached to my virginity too, but not to the point that you're talking about. I do think it's important that you feel very ready mentally before you have sex for the first time, and for you, this may mean therapy or counselling of some kind.
I waited quite a long time and was very mentally and physically ready and I lost my virginity not to a guy that I was dating, but an old friend. It didn't affect my sense of identity and I wasn't anxious or panicked about it, but I was a little nervous.
I think that you are experiencing some kind of anxiety about it, and might have some issues with control. Perhaps accessing professional therapy would be the best way to get over it. I think after all of this stress, it's important for you to have a good experience with a caring person who you can trust and who will treat you well. Don't listen to any advice that tells you to just get drunk and do it.
Take care and don't let anyone pressure you.
2007-02-04 17:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have radom meaningless sex with someone you will never see again. Thats what helped me over my fear. Once I was no longer a virgin I didnt change, I was still me without being a virgin. Losing your virginity is a big thing, but dont let it eat you up.
2007-02-05 01:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Will W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just become a Catholic Nun and forget about the sex thing or have a few drinks and get layed and get it over with. Who knows, maybe you will like it.
2007-02-05 01:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try taking some sex education classes and see if this will help
2007-02-05 01:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a vibrator first
2007-02-05 01:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋