I was very close with my dad. He was a true father to me. He was a friend to me. He did everything he could to support his family. He was everything to me and my mom. We didn't have time to prepare or anything of that nature, we didn't even know how bad his heart attack was. We don't know what to do. I need some advice from someone, now that my dad isn't here.
2007-02-04 16:56:07 · 20 answers · asked by S. Rook 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was 11 when my dad died. He had a headache that day, took some medicine and died of a stroke. There is nothing you can do but live your life. He is still there watching ove you. It will get easier to talk about it as the days go on, but you will still miss him. Don't worry, you will get to see him again.
-Beth
2007-02-04 17:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by smallvillefanatic1987 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is move on. I don't want to sound cold, but everybody dies no matter how much you love them, it's a fact of life. Allow yourself some time to be all sad and what have you, but remember, your father loved you and he would want you to be happy, not sitting around dwelling on his death. I'm sure he's wherever you think people go when they die, and I'd bet that he's there pulling for you to be strong and to make him proud. I know it sees tragic and it's like the end of the world, but your dad led a fairly long life that was tragically cut short, no shame in that. So honor his memory with your actions and your life, and remember, now he really is watching everything you do, so make him proud.
2007-02-05 01:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by yodaddy9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie relax and just think about the moments that you have had your chance to spend with your father. I am sure you and your mom will be okay. My mom pasted away when i was just 5yrs old and i am 21yrs old still doing well. Death is something that aint plan but just make sure you morn cry let all the pain out you don't want to walk around feeling like that forever. Your father is blessed he is home with the Lord. I am praying for you and your family you will survive sweetie. Email me when ever you need advice lapri_love@yahoo.com much love to you and your family.
2007-02-05 01:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by lapri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about you dad. It will take some time for you to heal from your loss.... I know how you feeling right now.. Ive lost some good friends and it hurts really bad for a while. Try to think of all the good times and good memories that you had with your dad..... Try not to dwell too much on being sad...... Its unfortunate but its a part of life. Hope you start to feel better soon (((((HUGS))))) :)
2007-02-05 01:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to comfort each other.and try to help her all that you can. I am sorry for this grief that you have to go through. I lost my mother when i was 12 and she was like my mom and dad because most of my time was spent with her. This was a long time ago(my grandmother died just a year before she did). I still feel their spirits around sometimes wherever i go. Your dad will watch over you.
2007-02-05 01:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not exactly sure what to tell you, but i am truly sorry. all i can say is that both u and your mom need to help one another and be there for each other more then ever. my grandma dies not to long ago and she was my everything including my gaurdian when i was little. the only thing i could do was to take care of my pa and my mom and know that she is in a good place as well as your father is up in heaven and one day you will be joined togther with him. im truly sorry bout ur father, but he is in a better place. his memories and himself will always be with you no matter what!
2007-02-05 01:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by GiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God! I'm very sorry. It's a terrible thing to lose a beloved person. There can be no words that may console your pain. Sometimes life is undeservedly cruel to us and we are not able to understand the reasons of that cruelty...Unfortunately we can do nothing but continue our existence.
You must be strong. This is a hard time not only for you but also for your mom. You must be strong for her, to help her survive. Now you have only each other and should take care of each other and...be strong.., I'm really sorry...
2007-02-05 01:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ jolie ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad died when I was 15 and my biggest mistake was that I didn't grieve so make sure you let your pain out and grieve because you will suffer so bad in the long run..The next thing is to make sure you do whatever you need to do to make him proud of you..graduste from high school...get married before you have kids...work your *** of to support yourself and maybe help your mom out...and talk to god everynight when you go to bed to set your mind at ease...don't keep you pain inside talk about it to a social worker if available...your gonna be in pain for a while but don't keep it built up and behave for your mom she is going through alot too.
2007-02-05 16:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by jenniferhci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i am very sorry to hear about your loss. Focuss on fun times you had with your dad. Pull out an old photo album and laugh @ some guffy pictures of him! Its ok to laugh and make jokes about him! Try to avoid long silences. I'm sure your dad loved you very much and wouldn't want you to sit around and cry just b/c he is gone. I know its hard to deal with but you will get through this!
2007-02-05 01:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should know that he is only gone in the physical way ,, go on with your life and keep talking to him honey, he will be listening and there to answer, but it will be up to you now to understand what he is saying, watch the wildlife around you "birds, cats, dogs, horses, squirrils and so on, he will use them as a way to let you know he is there looking over you all,when you hear certian phrases or songs ,,,, these are the ways he communicates with you ,,, then in time you'll find that he's still there ,,,,he lives thru you and all that love him ,, stay strong sweety, God bless
2007-02-05 01:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by nra_man58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋