What is happening to me?

Question

I am almost 19, my family has been splitting apart since i was young but now its practically official. my mother is far away my dad is always working my brother is always with his gf somewhere... and i am left alone. Things that i held in high regards once mean nothing to me now. i dont value things the way i used to. I have worked for years to have honor, integrity, and strength. but somewhere society has found those things to be repelling and unwanted, and not wanting to be around these things.. my friends have left for colleges and i have nothing to turn to.. my ex gf left me for her ex and played me for a fool for 9 months, i have joined the marines.. but what is happening to me? why am i feeling like this?

Answer 1

Your family is whatever your family is going to be. It's not as if you had any choice in the matter. Something I've told myself is "I'm a white sheep from a family of black sheep". To them, you're the oddball, but the reality is that you're the only one with character. You're 19 now, and what you're going through is a learning process that I think never stops. Don't worry about family or society when you are focusing on honor, integrity and strength; sometimes you stand alone when you're being courageous. So focus on being a good marine and take it from there, soldier. Don't sweat the EX, dude...if you can keep your sense of integrity about yourself, mature women are REAL desperate for your type. But that doesn't happen until you get close to 30. As for right now, chicks your age are fickle and immature.

Answer 2

Well...hello Marine....my grandson just joined the Marines and is he proud! It's sad about your family....sometimes parents who aren't making it wait until their kids grow up thinking it won't hurt them when they are older....not true!

But you are an adult and just because some things have been happening in your life doesn't mean the standards you set up are wrong....it just means you are going to have to find new friends who have the same standards...my grandson does....so I know there are other Marines like you.

What is important is to not throw away everything that is real and that matters, just because some bad things have happened in your life. Sounds like the girl friend showed you who she really was....find a better one and be sure she has the same standards as your own.

And since when do you live to fit society.....there are good people in society and bad ones....which do you want to be a part of....?
Deciding that will show who you really are.

We need Marines who take pride in their honor, integrity, and strength...so don't let us down. And be the best Marine there ever was. Time will take care of some of the rest.

And find a girl you can respect, love, and trust to be the mother of your children. It will be worth it. And build a marriage your parents didn't know how to! Good luck.....I'll be praying for you!

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about all this that's happened in your life. Everything that has happened you can't control it. People have their own views and way of life these days. It is too bad that not very many people like you have these type of views.

You need to be strong and don't give up. That's why you joined the Marines right? Because you are going to give it what it takes to save America and for the people to have their freedom.

Of all the things that has happened before your eyes, you can't forget, but you can move on and be strong about it. What matters is what you give to others. And you have given your life to go out and fight for our country like brave men do. You have made a difference already by making that choice to join the marines. So, don't be discouraged about the many things in the past, just be strong and look towards your future.

Remember, your family and friends are the brave men who fight along with you and who are willing to be there by your side. I am an American and I thank you for fighting for my freedom!

Answer 4

I know how you feel my family did the same thing in my teen years, unfortunately as a whole family ages it is easy to fall apart or at least out of practice of staying close. I would tell your family your concerns and how you feel may be you could all make it a point to have a family dinner night like on a Sunday. Make it a big deal. Your brother could invite his girlfriend and you could stress the importance to your parents that it means a whole lot to you. If they are divorced than they should still partipate in family affairs as many parents that divorce when their children our grown often times thinks that it is better on the kids if they are adults after they divorce. That's so wrong. Many times I think it is harder on adult children because it a sudden loss of family, as opposed to if the children are younger and still live at home the childs primary family needs are still often met either by one or both parents just in separate homes. If you can't get then together just use it as a tool in your life never to put your future kids through that. Take care and good luck...and stay safe. ~Destiny

Answer 5

Because Life sux and there isnt much you can do about the fact that it will stop at nothing to bring you down. All we can do is just have faith and hope things will get better, for the most part I am sorry to say that it doesnt ever really get better but it will get more bearable. Find your great passion and go for it it will be the only thing that will make this life worth living.

Answer 6

I can understand your feeling like you are and I feel for you, life these days makes it hard for those who have genuine feelings, people see it as a way to take advantage.
You say you joined the Marines, well give it all you got, make up your mind to get through basic and you will again find yourself with a deep sense of belonging, if you take advantage there is much to be gained from the adventure that lay ahead.

Best of luck to you

Answer 7

Because you deserve better! It sounds like alot of things are happening at once, that can get very overwhelming. My parents split up when i was about 5, so I didnt know what to think, too young. Yeah, I hated that, when all my friends went to college, and moved away! Not cool, but kinda motivates me to get up and make something of myself. Yeah, I aint got no friends, kinda have to keep truckin, even though you cant see the road. What ever that means!

Answer 8

The people that you love and depend on have left you alone. That is why you feel like you do. There is One who loves you and will never leave you alone. His name is Jesus. Cry out to Him because He is the One who cares and will never dissappoint you. Your family may love you but they cannot fill the innermost part of you that cries out for love, forgiveness, and truth. You can learn more about Him in the New Testament of the Bible. I cried out to Him almost 30 years ago and found Him while reading in the book of John. He has never left me alone.

Answer 9

You are super depressed. I have gone through a stage somewhat like this... but without family to back you up life must really be bad for you! You might want to try reading the Bible, and then going to a psychiatrist/friend/or doctor. Maybe then you can get your life headed in the direction you want ^_^

Answer 10

I know how hard that is. I am in a similar situation. Just know that this is common and it happens to a lot of us. Just stay strong and don't give up. Even though it doesnt seem like it now, things will get better. You willl meet someone who you can share your feelings with and who will be there to support you