had a depression &there were times he was suicidal.I was there for him, said I would go with him to get help,but he only wanted my help.We were together for almost 2year, told me he loved me, he spoke of marriage, babies,moving in together.Well a year into it he told me he had gotten a one night stand pregnant before we met, & that had alot to do w/ his depression.I helped him come to terms only to leave me for the mother of his child.Whats worst was he turned so cold to me, acted like we were nothing, spoke to me like Iwas never anything more. All to be with this girl.I know getting to know the child was all new & overwhelming.But he made me feel horrible &now I am in therapy for this all.I feel he messed with my head. How can he do this?Now they are on and off & maybe back on. But, what he did to me and made me feel I didnt deserve. Sorry but the girl is trash, someone he didnt want to be with or respect. We are both 29. Why did act this way with me? To justify what he did was right?
2007-02-04 16:23:51 · 7 answers · asked by MissMia 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If he had sepression problems themall I can say is that he didn't lie to you. Truth be told I have done something like that to the one I loved. I know it wasnt right but I know that if she stays with me she is just going to be my caretaker for the rest of our lives. I couldnt do that to her so I left her. I still love her and will never stop. He probably saw the same thing with you. He probably still loves you but doesn't want to bring you down. I talked about the same things and still want to have kids and be married but I know she is capable of so much more... You have your life and I think he honestly doesnt want you to always have to take care of him because that isn't fair to you. Thats a burden to you nomatter how willing you would have excepted it. I'm sorry but what he did was not an act to hurt you eventhough he did. It was in a twisted point of view the nice thing to do. I also suffer form depression and I wouldnt want anyone to throw their life away havein to take care of me. I'm shure you probablky think that you were willing and that you could take care of him and it would be ok but that still isnt fair to you. Im sorry but all i can say is that he still loves you and from what i see he did that for you and not to you. Think of what he did as a way to set you free from him burdening you. He wants you to find someone else and be happy like he cant make you. I may not be right on everything but I talk from experience. I hope I have helped you clarify somethings. If you want to actually talk to me I am always on AIM...thecraziestbob.
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2007-02-04 16:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 5
2016-05-24 13:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry its part of the depression.
Plus you dont know if the doctor has put him on something for the depression.
The you are not only dealing with the depression, but also what he is taking.
You need to get some counselling, or you will get too far down. yourself.
Its complicated to explain, but in a nutshell, they dont feel worthy of you, so they go out with someone else, to reasure themselves that they are OK.
Then it gets messy.
Can you move on? It sounds as if you need to talk about it yourself.
You have a few choices.
1. get counselling
2. try to move on.
3.deal with the anger and hurt in a positive way. I go for a swim.
It gets rid of the negative energy, and gets me fit as well.
What you are doing now is probably not working, so try something different.
Good luck
2007-02-04 16:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've done alot for him, and he has brought you nothing but pain in return. Run while you can. Trust me, the depression issue will never go away- it can only be mitigated with medicine or with whatever he has going on at the time that might help him feel better. Else, if you guys end up together, you'll spend the rest of your life helping him with his needs, and never enough time or energy to fulfill your own. Good luck.
2007-02-04 16:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Taddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if you don't stop thinking about this a*** hole because it seems like he's not thinking about you. Now he messed around on you and had a baby by someone else, he probably was with her the whole time and he was trying to make you feel sorry for him by telling you about all that depression bull so that he could have a reason to leave you for her. But don't worry about it because just like you found him, you will find someone who will treat you like you need to be treated.
2007-02-04 16:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by keekee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like in the depression or not, he has been confused about the two relationships. Some guys/and gals, just don't know how to handle relationship issues. Take care.
2007-02-04 16:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not for you get over him.Let him go you will get a another one men are like buses one will come in 15 min or so
2007-02-04 16:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by the black hand 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋