How do you go on with your life? How do you get over someone that you love?

Question

I loved my guy friend more than a friend. I recently told him about it. But I said that "I used to love you". I said that because he was being an asshole. He doesn't know how to treat his friends right and with respect. By the way I just sent it through mail. He knows I am so pissed. The thing is he used to be good, down-to-earth and sweet. But lately he has turn to become a loser. That's why I've been holding on this long cause I'm hoping that the normal him would come back. I guess I was wrong, he was getting worse and worse each day. He only cares about himself. Now, what's left to do? I lied, I realize that I still do love him. But I know and my friends keep telling me to forget about him and move on cause he is a jerk. What should I do? How could I move on?

Answer 1

Well since your friends know him better then I do...I would listen to them and move on.
Time is the only healer when it comes to getting over a relationship. It depends then what you do with that time that makes it harder or easier and longer or faster to get over him. If you break it off with him, you need to cut ALL ties with him!!! No, calling him, don't talk to him at all. I know that I myself had to get rid of everything that my ex's bought me or anything that had memories attached to them...pics, the places we been to together...etc. You can still love him for who he is as a person, but you don't have to go with him. Keep busy and go to new places with your friends...continue to get advise from people who been through this, but I would recommend going to your lady friends and not the guys. Many times, guys will prey on women that are hurt or venerable just to score later, so I don't recommend going to a guy for advise (I know...I'm a guy).

Answer 2

First u shouldn't lose hope that one day he'll wake up and you'll be friends again.You might want to tell him the truth first.Like tell him how u feel about the way he acts.Plus let him know what your friends think.I would also tell him that his friendship means alot but if he insist on acting the way he has your going to stop hanging with him.Then if he doesn't answer u back you'll have to move on.It will take time to.You'll need your other friends to help keep u busy.If u stay busy in time you'll feel better about the decision u made.I mean your not happy now.So in time without him you'll learn to find other friends and get over him.Good luck