this cute guy i like who happens to be my co-worker touchedme by my hip to tell me something-i dont think he noticed but i got annoyed-i moved away from him when he did that because it made me uncomfortale-he has said that i get defensive real quick but i didn't want him touching at all-so what should i do?
it was during work and he wanted to tell me there was a messy table ( i work as a hostess and i help the servers with their tables) but it was not even his, anyways, he could have tapped me on my shoulder, why did he do it by my hip?
he is engaged .
2007-02-04 16:06:18 · 15 answers · asked by amanda 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You were uncomfortable and you moved away. That's not overreacting at all. The hip is considered a fairly private area; it's weird when people touch you there. Don't listen to him about being too defensive, unless people around you are giving you strange looks because you screamed or slapped him or something. If you feel uncomfortable about something, you have a right to remove yourself from that situation. If I were you, next time he touched me inappropriately, then I'd tell him to stop. If he kept doing it, I'd tell the manager.
And not that I'm saying your coworker is a scary rapist or anything, but that "you're too defensive" line is a classic manipulation tool to get a woman to do something that goes against her instincts. Again, unless you are screaming at him for accidentally brushing up against you, don't listen to that crap.
2007-02-04 18:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, you're not over reacting to him touching you. He is either ignorant of invading another person's "personal space", or he is a creepy man. You did the right thing in stepping away. Tell a supervisor about the incident, also you could tell him he is not to touch you anywhere, even on the shoulder. Would he do the same to a male colleague? I think not. I hope he leaves you alone.
2007-02-04 16:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by jammer 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Quit asking this stupid question, people already gave you answers. Just because they told you that you ARE over reacting, which isn't what you want to hear, then you try to throw in that he is engaged, which has nothing to do with the situation at all.
You've got a problem. If you didn't like him touching you on your hip to get your attention, then TELL him instead of imagining he's lusting for you. Tell everyone that you work with not to touch you at all because you don't like to be touched.
And get some mental help.
You don't even see how messed up you are. You start off by say that he's this cute guy that you work with and that you like. Then you do a 180 and say that you got offended because he touched you by your hip to get your attention. And you try to make him sound like in doing it he's a pervert because he's engaged. Get help.
Anyone who reads your other questions knows that you've been pining over this guy and play "What if" games in your head concerning him for awhile now. GET HELP.
2007-02-04 16:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Really do you think the was making a pass at you in an open place like that. Has he done it to other girls? Has he been eyeing you? Is it him or you don't like to be touched in an objectionable manner?
So I guess any boy trying to touch your hip is objectionable. The question is how are you going to react when you meet him next time. Think it out.
2007-02-05 00:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Touching you anywhere on your person is uncalled for. Others could have possibly seen him do this. Staying professional at your place of business is the proper thing to do. Besides, supervisors watch you also, and you do not want to be reprimanded on your job. I think you did the right thing to move away from him to let him know that you did not appreciate the touching.
2007-02-04 16:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you are not over reacting. He knew what he was doing. He was "testing the waters" In other words he wanted to see if you would move away or if you would allow it. If you allowed it then he might and probably will try something a little more intimate next time. He wants sex
2007-02-04 16:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are over reacting! This is none of my business, but I am going to help. I don't think it was right for him to do that. What if is "new wife" was to find out he did that? I don't think that she wouldn't do anything about that. I don't think you should go with my advice, but maybe you should ask a few more people, and what they say. If the same thing comes up more than once, go with it! Maybe tell your boss, or even ask him why why he did that. If he says,"I don't know" just tell him, "You didn't say 'I don't know' to your wife! Why say it to me?" And make him awnser. Then tell anyone what he did and why he did it. Then go with advice they might give you! :)
2007-02-04 16:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most likely he didn't even notice where he had touched you, and I would be willing to bet it was a one-time mistake. If he does it again, then I might start to be concerned.
2007-02-04 16:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it sounds like you are overreacting just a bit.
2007-02-05 05:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no big deal, he didnt do it to piss you off, he just did it because thats the way he is he is more comfortable with touching than you are
2007-02-04 16:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋