Theres this guy I like. We are both 27. I stayed the night with him and he didn't try anything. But he said he would like if I came to see him. We slept beside each other, he didnt try to kiss me or anything. Just held me. He didn't even get my # or give me his. We are friends who all know each other through other mutual firends.. So I figure he will find my # if he wants to call me.
I like him more than hooking up for a one nighter. But I don't know how into me he is?
What do I do?
2007-02-04 16:02:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normally I would say wait, but it sounds like you have a decent man (a rare winner) here, so it's probably worth inviting him to a barbeque, social event or something like this.
2007-02-04 16:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how I met my husband. We stayed the night together, on thanksgiving night, because we were both going to be alone. I came to his house to watch movies. That night I slept on top of the covers he under. He took me home the next day & told me that he would pick me up in two days to stay again. When he did, he still tried nothing. After 2 & a 1/2 weeks of this, I finally went up to him & said look, you know I like you & I am sorry if you feel pressured by this, but I am the type of person that likes to know what is going on, & I would like to know where you expect things to go between us. I said if we are going to be friends, then fine, I can deal witht that, & if we are going to start dating, then I can deal with that too, but what I can not deal with is not knowing either way. Your case is sooooo similar to mine, I had to read it to my husband. Of course, we were together 2 years, & then married. You can try this, or you can approach it another way, either way, if you like this guy, then I would say that yeah you should chase. P.S, I was 27 at the time too, he was 25.
2007-02-04 16:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 27 as well........I would wait for him...but I think you need to mention something that you enjoyed the time you spent together..and let him take it from there....last year I stayed the night with someone as well and he did not try anything, perfect gentlement, sometimes i wonder why he did not try anything.....my case is a long distance thing, so very different than you...I think the guy does not want to mess things up
2007-02-04 16:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to say bypass on, regrettably. It merely sounds like she's teasing you and that sucks lots. yet interior an identical sense you do not wanna date yet another woman and this woman you want lots say that she's waiting for you and then merely drop this woman. Ya understand? i imagine you ought to refer to her and tell her that you ought to do something for her. woman's favor to take heed to that type of stuff. you ought to also ask her why she's no longer waiting for a courting and why it is no longer the right time for her. perchance ask her even as the right time should be. tell her the way you sense and merely roll with it from there on. It does sound somewhat complicated, yet you want to get interior her head and locate out precisely what she's questioning. And a head to head communication ought to in all likelihood be acceptable for this. good success!
2016-11-02 08:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be thinking the same thing u are! so i say get with ur mutual friends,have them set it up where u 2 see each other again,and try it again! see what happens from there! GL
2007-02-04 16:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by dawnella322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not touching you on the second night I recommend to stay away from him, there must be something wrong. Do not chase a man unless he has something extraordinary. Trust me.
2007-02-04 16:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay friends with him. Keep in touch with your mutual friends and eventually you'll keep seeing him. If he is into you he will try to find you. If it is ment to be you will know.
2007-02-04 16:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait! Guys tend to be put off if the woman chases them. They want to be the ones in control.
2007-02-04 16:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by ILOVELUCYFAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you've already been in bed with the guy, reguardless of whether there was no sexual activity involoved, so you can def. be bold and call the guy up first... why not!? go for it, be up front with him...tell him your starting to be interested in him and you want to spend more time with him...im sure he'll say the same...
2007-02-04 16:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out to lunch so you can chat and get to know his hobbies, etc. See if you have anything in common. He sounds sweet. Good luck!
2007-02-04 16:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by xxxcerealfordinnerxxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋