I am dating this guy and I really, really like him, but he told me he wants at least 5 hours of s_x everyday. He has told me this several times. I am extremely attracted to him, but everytime he mentions s_x, I find myself shutting down. I find his quota unreasonable, impractical, and it creates unnecessary tension in a new relationship. No, we have not done it. What do you think of this?
2007-02-04 15:59:08 · 22 answers · asked by Hanna S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His problem is that he's trying to make you do something you don't really want to do. Set your own boundries and stick with them. He'll respect you more for that. If he doesn't, it means he's selfish and you're better off finding someone else. Life is far too short to have to put up with selfish people.
2007-02-04 16:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by zosofan59 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think, if he is serious, that I would be wondering what he has been doing fives hours of every day that you two are have not been together.
That is an unfair and bullish way of munipulating you. Either that, or he is trying to drive you away for some reason. You are correct, it is impractical. It is also demanding and selfish. I think you should tell him that that is not practical for you and go from there with your conversation.
2007-02-04 16:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking me? 5 hours? Is this guy a super horn dog? First off, that's a lot to ask for. That is unreasonable and totally ridiculous to expect something like that from you. If he really cares and if he really matters, he should be able to survive without that physical attraction. I mean he's lived at least 15 years without it. He should be fine, until you're ready.
2007-02-04 16:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Janet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 HOURS!!!! ok thats maybe reasonable the first few times but say you were to go long term would he still expect this of you? Could HE even last that long! I think maybe you should let him know that not everything is about sex and that he is driving you away with such remarks, it will happen when the time is right and neither of you will be carrying a stopwatch for the event!
2007-02-04 16:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what a controlling jerk! I can't believe you're even asking this. You're in a new relationship-and he's talking about 5 hours of sex.... man, if i was in a new relationship, i'd be worried about dating, going to the movies, kissing, not sex. If you're shutting down, your body is trying to tell you something...it's about time you listen to it. If you want attraction, go grab a celebrity magazine. We all get old and wrinkly, go find someone with a personality and more realistic expectations.
2007-02-04 16:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by cichlid gal 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you and your friend are but he seems extremely shallow and immature. I don't know if he is trying to brag or establish dominance over you or if he's just stupid.
Yes, he could have a sex addiction but to me the main thing is that his saying that to you is something a 12 year old boy might say to a girl to impress her. A stupid 12 y/o boy at that.
I think you would be doing yourself a favor by not dating him again.
2007-02-04 16:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right 5 hours a day, seven days a week?
Sounds like a virgin boy running his mouth.
Dump him for a no pressure friendship. I'm going to assume you are to young for such nonsense anyway.
Save yourself for when you are old enough to know yourself better and know them better as well.
Forget about it and move on girl.
You don't need anyone else to validate who you are.
Be careful out there!
Good luck!
2007-02-04 16:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Michael G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he isn't serious. Don't shut down. Ask questions. The first one could be something like "do you think that's a reasonable amount of time."
2007-02-04 16:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by slinda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of "shutting down", why not give the person your own quota? His "quota" may be unreasonable, and maybe he is exaggerating - so it is up to you to choose when to "do it" and how long you would like to "do it" for.
p.s. Thanks for the thumbs down, you don't agree it should be her choice? lmao
2007-02-04 16:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's just really excited about sleeping w/ you! Men talk a big game and he just wants to impress you> consider it flattery. My husband did the same thing when we were dating.
2007-02-04 16:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by lilkismet73 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋