What could be the psychological problem of a 15 year old boy who defecates in and wears step mother's underwea

Question

very Bizarre problem here: I have a 15 year old step son who has head problems. He has stolen 60 pairs of m undies in the past 4 years! he wears them, destroys, rips, and defecates in them. then he hides them. yikes! a history on him: divorce, anger issues, 2 alcoholic parents.. He steals alot. iq 88. I have 2 small bos and am afraid he will hurt them. this kid is waked!

Answer 1

Has he been sexually abused in the past? The fact that it's women's underwear specifically sounds like his anger is both sexual, and specific towards females. That could be because he was sexually abused by a woman in the past, or a somewhat less direct reaction to having been abused by a man.

Another possibilty: what's the attitude in your community and family towards transexuals and homosexuals? I could imagine that if he were feeling like he should have been a girl, or he was attracked to other boys, and he wasn't ok with that then this could possibly be a response to extreme frustration.

It could also not be something about underwear specifically, but just the fact that they're yours. It's not uncommon for kids to have trouble accepting a step parent, especially if they've had a rough time leading up to it, and it could be related to that. That doesn't necessarily mean that you're doing anything wrong (for all I know you could be beating him with a hot iron every night, but you could also be an absolutely perfect step-parent and he could still have issues with your being there that have absolutely nothing to do with anything you've done appart from marrying his dad).

No matter what's behind it, he should see a psychiatrist ASAP. What you described definitely isn't normal behavior. I doubt he'll hurt your kids since his aggression isn't directed at other people, but he definitely needs some serious professional help.

Answer 2

Hi Alexis,

Was you step son ever evaluated by school psychiatrist when he was younger or any other learning specialist?. It very well could be do emotional, verbal or physical abuse from the history you described but there also seems to be traits of autism involved though I stand to be corrected. I have worked in Special Education for several years and What he is doing with the underwear in of it's self just rises questions in my own mind.

Your step son definitely needs to be evaluated and seen by a psychiatrist. If I were you I would get this done A.S.A.P. so he can receive the help he needs and this will also be of great benefit and help to you as well. As far as the stealing, that needs to be nipped in the bud and fast!, If he ends up in jail he WILL NOT get the proper help he needs. Your step son is still young and has a chance to change his life for the better if given the opportunity.

I just have a gut feeling on this, but like I stated above, when having him evaluated do ask about autism to see if that is a remote possibility. I wish you the best of luck.



Sincerely,

Alice H.

Answer 3

I know this girl who used to crap in her underwear in her room and then transfer it to the outdoor litter box like the cat did it. She was severly abused as a child and was treated like a slave (fetch this, fetch that). I can't understand why they do that but seriously this child needs help and counseling. Get a counselor and if the kid doesn't click with the counselor than try another one. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the suitable one but the effort in the long run will pay off. Don't let this go. the girl i know had this as an adult carried from childhood.

Answer 4

this may a bit too harsh but Boot Camp might set him straight
but then again if he's been through hell as a small child i don't think he needs anymore yelling it may make him worse...
like everyone else says on here counseling would probably be your best bet but sometimes that doesn't work if not maybe a boy's home here are some websites that may help you out
of course i don't know your location but hopefully these help
if none of these are in your area you can simply go to www.google.com type in "boy's home" and you may find one in your area

Answer 5

its a pain in the butt putting all that on, washing it all off and putting moisturizer and all that on plus the destruction to the face by wearing it. but if u r too embarrassed to buy it u should be too embarrassed to wear it. are u doing this for a reason or cos the movie stars wear all that junk? u will get lots more abuse if u start wearing the make up. try out for drama get into a play and maybe then u will get an idea of the hassles of wearing it.

Answer 6

I would suggest two things. First I would ask him to read the site about feral children and see if he can reason well enough. If he is badly disturbed and cant reason sensibly I would take him to Boys town and have him live there for a couple of months. There will be a cost involved .

Answer 7

I agree with the others. For the safety of your boys, please get him to a psychiatrist. He needs help ASAP.
I would be scared to let him near my son without being supervised at all times. You don't know what to expect from someone like that.

Reminds me of the guy on Silence of the Lambs who dresses up in the skins of women who he's murdered.

The boy needs help before he gets older and dangerous.

Answer 8

Wow, family counseling won't help that kid.

That behavior is very dangerous. Potentially a prelude to psychotic behaviour. He needs to see a psychologist to be tested and treated.

Answer 9

You should call the children's county mental health department (or whatever it is called) as he needs help fast. He probably needs to be in a different home environment and in a different school and needs help mentally, before he becomes a serial murderer or something as bad.

Answer 10

He needs to be in the mental health system for sure. And I think he needs to be out of your house away from your young boys.