I'm going out with a guy right now. But, I keep having unsure feelings that I may not like him. I use to like this other guy a lot and sometimes I still think I love the other guy. I think about them both a lot of the time. I'm so confused on which one I truly love. Sometimes I worry that I'm just using the guy I'm going out with to forget about the other guy I liked and never liked me in return... Then other times I tell myself I truly do like my bf.. But, whenever I kiss him I feel nothing... Ugh.. I'm so confused.. Someone please help me.
2007-02-04 15:45:47 · 10 answers · asked by LUST 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say you liked this other guy, BUT he didn't like you! What you are doing is 'kind of pretending' there was something between you and this other guy, when in 'reality' there really wasn't. It's a way we sometimes react to being UN-accepted by someone, by 'pretending'
something was there.
The guy you are with right now needs to be treated fairly, and thats 'not' what you are doing. If you really arn't sure how you feel about you BF, then I think you should tell him so.
There is 'nothing' worse than being 'toyed' with.
How would you feel if the situation was reversed, and it was your BF who couldn't make up his mind.
You 'owe' it to him to be honest about how you feel. If you are so unsure about these guys, then
you need to 'let them go' so they will have the
chance to find someone who will be honest and
'really' care about them..
You need to join the 'real world' and be 'realistic'.
2007-02-04 15:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, do me a favor, close your eyes, & take a deep breath. Look deep into your heart, & , think of the last time that you were smiling, & the last time that someone touched your hand or sholder, & you felt right, no think of the face you see. If it is the other guys face that you see, you may still love this other guy, If it is the new guys, then it is he that holds your heart. There is nothing wrong with this situation, you just need to pick who is right for you. Only you know truly who that person is. Good luck to you!!!!
2007-02-04 15:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still think about the guy that you truly love whenever you are with you new guy, they you don't love the new guy (yet). It depends maybe you are still completely not over the first guy. My advice is, I hope you are not treating the new guy as someone for rebound. Make sure you have healed yourself from the first guy. It's also happening to me right now. There's this new guy, but I don't want to really commit myself to him cause I know I am still in love with someone else. I say give in time my dear.
2007-02-04 15:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by funnybone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm..ok so..think of it deeply. if you love your boyfriend then,continually love him. if you love the other guy..stop to love him, because.like,who knows does he likes you back?..you had also said that he didnt liked you in return so. dont push yourself over to a guy which never liked you..love the person you are with right now,because sooner or later,you will try to love him just the right way, if you have no feelings for him,when you two guys kiss..just feel like,kissing the other boy you aka.."LIKED"..haha..no seriously,kiss him the way he kisses you..because truly,probably, he really really really love you and you mean a lot to him...
i hope you will learn to love only ONE guy at a time..its really tight when there's someone had just popped out in your relationship..
2007-02-04 15:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ =) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the one guy u arent sure about your feelings for him rite now...and u need some time to get things together and if he truly loves you/like you he will wait..and see what u got goin with the other guy see which one u were more happy with
2007-02-04 15:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are still hung over on your ex.
2007-02-04 15:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Honey! Get over it! Go fishin!
2007-02-04 15:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by pollywollydoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 - 10 times if your not sure it's love, it isn't.
2007-02-04 15:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you should break up with him before you hurt him badly
2007-02-04 15:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you kiss someone, you should definitely feel it. if you dont, you dont love them.
2007-02-04 15:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋