Despite him (the man that I love) being selfish, stupid and careless why do I still love him?

Question

How do I move on? How do I let go? How do I forget about him? Please help.

Answer 1

because love is blind and I think you need to be too strong to be able to move on ..so if you really think you'll be better without him ,be strong and go with your life and I must tell you ,that wont be easy but not impossible either, that will take you time to get over him but you may never forget him ...

Answer 2

If he is stupid, selfish, and careless, that doesn't add up to a very attractive package. Why waste your love on that? Why settle for so little? Don't you want to be cherished? Don't you want to be happy? Have a future?
If you live with him, simply pack your things, and walk out the door. Don't fight, don't argue, it's pointless, and he will just try to make you come back so he can abuse you more.
Spend some time with yourself, try to figure out why you have invested your time, heart, and life in someone so unworthy of you. Remember two things: 1.) If you don't value yourself, no one else will either 2.) You get what you ask for..meaning..Set your standards high, and you'll get high, set them low, and that's what you'll get. Be brave, and keep yourself busy. You may never forget him, but you will stop hurting, and in time, you just won't care. Hopefully, you'll love yourself more. Good luck.

Answer 3

You've answered your own question here. You love him despite these attributes. There is nothing inherently wrong with that, but you might want to focus on what will make your relationship with him better. How does he feel about you? Maybe he isn't ready for a relationship right now, or maybe he is and just doesn't know how to show it. You're going to have to talk this out with him to find out. If he isn't willing to talk, you might want to put on your running shoes and get away as fast as possible because then you can let go knowing that you've genuinely made the right decision for yourself. Right now, you're not so sure about that, but you will know once you've had that conversation.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

you 'love' him because you haven't dealt with issues from your past which you need to move on from otherwise you'll forever be chasing after men who aren't emotionally available..

Did by any chance your father walk out on your family, or were you sexually abused as a child??? yeah......be honest now....

You need to get professional help and dont let the stigmatism of "mental help" hold you back, wouldn't you rather live your life to the fullest potential? Of course you would, so forget about him, get the help you desperately need and then when you're ready the healthy men will be waiting in line to be your prince charming, trust me, it's exactly how it is......

p.s. easier said than done I know, I'm still working on it myself

Answer 5

You got something drawn up in your head. Forget this guy, he's a loser. You move on by finding you someone new when your ready. You let go. Wad it up like a piece of paper and throw it out of your mind. You forget about him by keeping youself busy.

Answer 6

Uh i am feeling your same pain right now.

Sucks to move on, I sometimes cant then i think about it... He isnt over there beating himself of Me.

He is doing what he wants to and y should i be at his convience all the time?

So You have to occupy your own time..Keep busy and good friends around!!

Answer 7

Love relationships can sometimes be very baffling to figure out. There are several ways of analyzing them based on a variety of of approaches by the experts. Some questions you might ask yourself: Why am I attracted to a person who is so self-seeking, one who works for his own advantage at the expense of others. Does he remind you of anyone in your family? Sometimes we fall into relationships with people who are just like our father, mother, or a sibling (like a big brother or someone). You find yourself stuck in a relationship with a family member, because you can't shoot them or swear to never see them again. You just have to struggle along with them. But, you don't have to tolerate it from someone else. I bet you are a really nice person; however, nice people aren't always appreciated like they deserve to be. One thing you can work on is setting your own boundries in this relationship, of what you will and will not accept from him. You can say, "I am willing to go get a coke for you, only if you will do the same for me sometime.... and wait for a "verbal response" back. The key here is to get him to actually "say it"! If he isn't willing to reciprocate, your off-the-hook, and you reply back,"...Well, Ok I guess I don't have to get up then". This tactic can transfer to a lot of other situations where you might be taken for granted. People in relationships can become so immeshed that they lose sight of the real reason for the relationship. A love relationship should be a give-and-take proposition. It should never be one sided with one doing all the giving, and the other doing all the taking. Another question you might ask yourself, ...is he like this with anyone in his family, like his mother?...or is his father the same way he is? In otherwards, where did he pick up this selfish behavior? Of course his behavior may be indicative of the male chauvinistic culture he grew up in where men are taught to believe they are superior to women, and that women are supposed to serve men. If this is the case, he may never find a women who would be willing to always put his needs before her's, for the rest of her life. It doesn't sound like much fun to me, what about you? Ending a relationship with someone, especially with someone you have been intimate with is never easy, it can be a bumpy road to travel for awhile, but "time heals all wounds" they say. The secret to happiness is to look within. The wonderful feelings you have are always experienced inside your own body and mind. Try to learn as much as you can of what is behind your motivation to select one person over another. People need to accept you for who you are. You don't have to bend over backwards or jump through hoops to be liked by someone. Just remember that, but go on being the wonderful loving person that you are. Happy trails to you, friend.

Answer 8

well there nothing really you can do if you still love him its it you love him you cant pick who you love and they also say love is blind i know i have been in love with a reall asshole and i couldnt help but still love him but i grew out when i got with better guys so dont worry it will all work out for the best

Answer 9

if u really do wanna leave him, just do it. coz u may not go on with him in future. So do it with a rock heart, n never drag things until they go worse. Try n do it to go for a better life.

Answer 10

Before you can love someone else, it is always best to love yourself first. It could be that you are just infactuated with him?There something about him or maybe he is alot like you.