My girlfriend and i broke up i broke up with her earlier today. I realized it was a mistake. I want her back is it to early to ask for her back? will i look retarded?
2007-02-04 15:42:28 · 19 answers · asked by Mike T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why did you hurt her if you want her? Don't hurt her again.
2007-02-04 15:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's more important to you, looking smart or getting her back?
Risk being the fool, if you want her.
It's not too early, and if you wait too long it will be too late, because women do not like having their hearts stomped on any more than men do and she will try to get you out of her mind and heart. She may be willing to take you back, that's up to her.
But make sure that this is what you truly want before you ask her to take you back. Usually there's a good reason why people break up. When you've just broken up it's easy to forget those reasons and focus on the good parts of the relationship.
Stop and think carefully before you do anything else. Good luck!
2007-02-04 23:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there. I want to share with you something.
My exboyfriend used to act on impulse chasing me and wanting me back and when we get back together, he would break up with me again because he would say that he realized he really isn't that ready and we'd really work much better as just friends. Then he will want me back again. I don't know if he's confused or he just sees me as a toy but definitely it has ruined everything between us although it was a potentially good relationship. Insecurities and jealousies crushed it down. I learned to accept it wasn't mean to be and I learned to trust God that if he wills for us to be together then He will orchestrate events for it to happen when the time is right for us both.
In your case, i don't know exactly the real deal about the breakup. It could have been a minor or major reason. Whatever it is, it looks like that you both haven't given much thought about it before breaking up because after breaking up, you are not sure now if it's what you really want because you said you want her back. i assume it must have been something that really hurt you both that you immediately decided to end things.
it might be too early.. give both yourselves time to think things out. get the privilege out of this what you may consider as only a "time out" to step back and analyze the relationship. sometimes this little time outs are good for relationships, it helps people step back from the relationship and from a far you get see a clearer vision of what the relationship is all about and how important it could be or how insignificant it can actually be. time to analyze your love for each other and time to decide if it's really worth. on and off relationships are not healthy. so if you decide to come back to her you have to make sure that you have decided that it's really what you want this time and that the next breakup if there will be is something that you both really want and not something that you both will still think about.
At the same time, hear how she is taking it now. Maybe she is really depressed this time. I know from experience how hard it is to be dumped (more than once in my case). But I also know from experience that it's not hard to take someone back who has hurt you if you love them very much. If she still loves you and takes you back, then take good care of that chance she gives you buddy.
I hope all things will work out for the good of both you.
2007-02-04 23:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? You must be kids--the relationship sounds like an immature one--break up---get back---oh what to do. You better set out to seeing what it is a relationship is supposed to be. You just don't jump in and out when ever you want to. You won't look retarded--you simply sound like a kid---god, grow up. I don't expect that you will have any luck with trying to put the words together to get her back---give it some time---but usually when it's over IT IS OVER. Better luck next time---and stop acting like a child.
2007-02-04 23:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all guys feel like that after they break up. I just broke up with my girlfriend and i didnt get over it. I was about to ask for her back but didnt and it turned out to be a smart move.
2007-02-04 23:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up with her for any reason you should not take her back. Every time I took somepone back it never worked we ended up just breaking up again but harder and lost good friends that way. My advice is find someone new.
2007-02-04 23:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by reddog_1965 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you realise you made a mistake the best thing you can do is acknowledge it to her as soon as possible and apologise. If you are lucky she may decide to accept you back in her life.
What you 'look' like is completely irrelevant.
2007-02-04 23:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap! You will look retarded, but getting down on your hands and knees helps overcome that feeling!
The big question is will she take you back?
2007-02-04 23:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by Dan821 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what u fought about. bring a nice boquet of flowers and some choclates to her house with a card and leave it on her doorstep. or u can call her or leave a voicemail on her phone and apologize and tell her why u were wrong and she was right. good luck buddy!
2007-02-04 23:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you better ask fast or she will forget you. Unless you broke up to teach her a lesson, you better ask her back now.
2007-02-04 23:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF I dumped someone there would have to be a reason for it...I wouldn't be taking them back.
2007-02-05 00:15:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋